More about sex work
This makes me sad, too.
Hot on the heels of yesterdayWednesday's comments, wherein I note that feminists sometimes suck the joy out of fucking (NO! Really?), I happen across the above gem (interestingly, 'cos Debauchette linked to them from her twitter, which I wouldn't have given them the traffic, but whatevs) (also, if you haven't read Deabuchette, may I take this opportunity to suggest her? Well-thought out, sometimes erotic, sometimes plain ol' smart, and always well written - she may change how you view sex workers).
While mostly, I don't mind the author's take - though it is a little breathlessly "OMG, hookers want to be treated like people too!" and I could do without the idea that there is no middle ground in discussion of sex work by the sex worker between vilification and glorification ('cos to me, Debauchette just seems to need a space to TALK - STUNNINGLY like I am doing RIGHT NOW).
Anyhow.
What bothers me here is that the readers - all of whom would probably loudly proclaim themselves to be feminist - seem to think being paid for sex is an appalling career choice. To be fair, I haven't read through them all, but it's disturbing to me that there are comments that saw "I would consider myself a failure as a mother if my daughter became a prostitute."
Really?
That's the failure? Someone having sex for money indicates a failure of morality? Not "entering into a profession that she hates and will suck her soul out because I am comfortable telling the neighbours about a job in banking/ medicine/ law"? How is that not the fucking failure?
How is it more of a failure for me, as a daughter (hypothetically speaking) to do something I love as a career than for me to do something for a career that makes me hope every Sunday night that I will die in my sleep (Yeh, really. I had that job)? 'cos in MY WORLD, denying fundamental joy is the failure. And if, as a parent, I don't encourage my child to freely follow his/ her path whatever that path may be, THAT is the true failure.
Because I haven't raised a person at that point, but an automaton of a sheeple.
People, man. They make me sad.
You know, the thing that really bugs me about this is that it makes those of us who are like "Word, just give me the same fucking rights and I'm good!" as feminists look like raging cockbags. I don't want to be associated with cuntmuffins like this. I want to get paid the same when I work as hard, I want to have contributions weighed in the same right as my male colleagues, and I want to not hear the word "slut" bandied about as though it means something dirty when I make my own sexual choices.
Fuck these waffles who think that because they own a twat of their own that I want anything to do with them, just 'cos I contribute to NOW too. Eat my cunt, you woman-vilifying faux-feminist piece of shit.
Hot on the heels of yesterdayWednesday's comments, wherein I note that feminists sometimes suck the joy out of fucking (NO! Really?), I happen across the above gem (interestingly, 'cos Debauchette linked to them from her twitter, which I wouldn't have given them the traffic, but whatevs) (also, if you haven't read Deabuchette, may I take this opportunity to suggest her? Well-thought out, sometimes erotic, sometimes plain ol' smart, and always well written - she may change how you view sex workers).
While mostly, I don't mind the author's take - though it is a little breathlessly "OMG, hookers want to be treated like people too!" and I could do without the idea that there is no middle ground in discussion of sex work by the sex worker between vilification and glorification ('cos to me, Debauchette just seems to need a space to TALK - STUNNINGLY like I am doing RIGHT NOW).
Anyhow.
What bothers me here is that the readers - all of whom would probably loudly proclaim themselves to be feminist - seem to think being paid for sex is an appalling career choice. To be fair, I haven't read through them all, but it's disturbing to me that there are comments that saw "I would consider myself a failure as a mother if my daughter became a prostitute."
Really?
That's the failure? Someone having sex for money indicates a failure of morality? Not "entering into a profession that she hates and will suck her soul out because I am comfortable telling the neighbours about a job in banking/ medicine/ law"? How is that not the fucking failure?
How is it more of a failure for me, as a daughter (hypothetically speaking) to do something I love as a career than for me to do something for a career that makes me hope every Sunday night that I will die in my sleep (Yeh, really. I had that job)? 'cos in MY WORLD, denying fundamental joy is the failure. And if, as a parent, I don't encourage my child to freely follow his/ her path whatever that path may be, THAT is the true failure.
Because I haven't raised a person at that point, but an automaton of a sheeple.
People, man. They make me sad.
You know, the thing that really bugs me about this is that it makes those of us who are like "Word, just give me the same fucking rights and I'm good!" as feminists look like raging cockbags. I don't want to be associated with cuntmuffins like this. I want to get paid the same when I work as hard, I want to have contributions weighed in the same right as my male colleagues, and I want to not hear the word "slut" bandied about as though it means something dirty when I make my own sexual choices.
Fuck these waffles who think that because they own a twat of their own that I want anything to do with them, just 'cos I contribute to NOW too. Eat my cunt, you woman-vilifying faux-feminist piece of shit.