The Ignorance of Relativity.
My sister is coming here for the weekend to pickup the lawnmower she is getting from us that they traded a power washer for. $250 power washer for a $850 riding lawnmower. Yeah, that was a good deal, mom. But, that's not the point of this post.
My first post in several weeks and it has a point. It's about the ignorant twats out there that think it's okay to say things in such a casual way without care for the way it will be taken. Yes, I know my comments reflect a view of sexism on my part, but, really, at this point, I don't care. I've had my fill of so-called 'feminists' and their bullshit lately. So, I'm going to be a bit deliberately crass to talk about this.
Really, a guy looks at your ass, and that is somehow harming you? He stares at your tits and now that keeps you from...what? I'm lost here. I fail to see how either of these harm you. Comments are different, they can be innocuous to annoying, but that's not what I'm talking about. The Daily Show got this one wrong, as they have in the past, and I'm not going to accept it. A guy checking out your ass is natural. He checks out everyone's ass, I know, I watch them. Everyone checks out everyones ass. You're not special, bitch, so sit the fuck down. And if you don't want a guy staring at your breasts so much, this time, it is appropriate to blame the 'victim' a tiny smidge. You walk around with them hanging out, people are going to look. He didn't come up, grab them, and play 'Tune-In Tokyo', he just looked. I look. If I can see your tits, I'm going to look. People stare, we're a visually interested species. It is not rape, it is not harassment, it is not a case of low breeding/lack of education. Even the most virtuous person is going to look, especially when you wear a neckline that ends at your navel. Got them babies, show them off, just don't act all scandalized when someone notices.
Notice I didn't disparage the entire sex, just a few generalized examples. It's grossly over-done, but it is all deliberate. I'm trying to express my disdain for a behavior, but I am conscious of what I am saying. It is incredibly offensive, but that doesn't make the message any less true. These few women act like they are just suddenly aware that this even happened and that it's the worst thing in the whole world.
Sexism does exist in this world, it is pervasive and incredibly destructive. It must be dealt with when a problem. This is not a case of sexism being a problem, though. Now, comments are something else entirely. They fall under the gray area and over the line depending upon what is said. That is something we have complete control over. Looking is instinctive, speaking is not. Quit equating the two, it's not the fucking same!
Now, that said, back to my ignorant sister. My genius sister thinks 'that's so gay' is perfectly acceptable in anything but a joking or ranting matter. Because, she meant "gay in the stupid or ignorant way, not gay way." and "Besides, I didn't think you people wanted to be called that anyways."
You people. Oh, yeah, the reference words of the self-aware genius. You people never ends well, deary.
By using this in a casual conversation she demonstrated the same level of awareness as the women on The Daily Show the other night. The solution is the same in both instances. This is something that is entirely upon the person who takes offense. My sister revealed her ignorance and lack of social graces as surely as anyone who does more than look. It is up to the offended whether they will play the part of a nag/teacher and try to correct the bad behavior, deal with it another way, or ignore it.
I corrected her ignorance, but she's still going to be a deliberately ignorant bitch. There's nothing I can do about it except avoid her or ignore her without becoming a problem myself. I got enough flaws and bitchy behavior of my own without worrying about some ignorant bitch.
TL;DR version. I speak like a sailor about how looking is built-in to the human model, and that you can't compare it to a controlled behavior like speaking because it's not something we learn. The Daily Show tried this the other night and made a bunch of women in cleavage revealing clothing look like ignorant, whiny teases. We do learn what to say, what not to say because that is a learned behavior. While we can't control what other people say, we can control how we react to it. Touching someone without their permission is a big no-no. Think before you speak. I'm a bitch. Looking is not bad, but commenting probably is.
I think that about covers it.
Oh, and calling something 'gay' when it isn't actually about the homosexual lifestyle is still wrong. Gay doesn't mean ignorant, stupid, terrible, awful, dumb, or any other thing you probably think it does. It means two people of the same sex who like to fuck and everything those two people like to do in their regular lives. If two women like to read books, that is not gay. If two lesbians like to read books, that is so gay, because they are lesbians and lesbians are gay, and everything lesbians do is inherently gay. Thus, it is okay to say 'lesbians reading books is so gay'.
Also, PPS, it's okay to put your titties on display. You're not a whore or a slut or a tease or any of those good things. You're normal. Just like it's okay for people to look. They're not perverts, rapists, monsters, or anything you might be thinking. They're normal, like you. Oh, and when you catch yourself looking, that's okay too. You're human. Humans look. Looking at titties doesn't make you a lesbian, feeling them does, though, sorry, even if they're you're own. Especially if they are your own titties. Just kidding about the lesbian part. Everything else is true, though.
Titties!
My first post in several weeks and it has a point. It's about the ignorant twats out there that think it's okay to say things in such a casual way without care for the way it will be taken. Yes, I know my comments reflect a view of sexism on my part, but, really, at this point, I don't care. I've had my fill of so-called 'feminists' and their bullshit lately. So, I'm going to be a bit deliberately crass to talk about this.
Really, a guy looks at your ass, and that is somehow harming you? He stares at your tits and now that keeps you from...what? I'm lost here. I fail to see how either of these harm you. Comments are different, they can be innocuous to annoying, but that's not what I'm talking about. The Daily Show got this one wrong, as they have in the past, and I'm not going to accept it. A guy checking out your ass is natural. He checks out everyone's ass, I know, I watch them. Everyone checks out everyones ass. You're not special, bitch, so sit the fuck down. And if you don't want a guy staring at your breasts so much, this time, it is appropriate to blame the 'victim' a tiny smidge. You walk around with them hanging out, people are going to look. He didn't come up, grab them, and play 'Tune-In Tokyo', he just looked. I look. If I can see your tits, I'm going to look. People stare, we're a visually interested species. It is not rape, it is not harassment, it is not a case of low breeding/lack of education. Even the most virtuous person is going to look, especially when you wear a neckline that ends at your navel. Got them babies, show them off, just don't act all scandalized when someone notices.
Notice I didn't disparage the entire sex, just a few generalized examples. It's grossly over-done, but it is all deliberate. I'm trying to express my disdain for a behavior, but I am conscious of what I am saying. It is incredibly offensive, but that doesn't make the message any less true. These few women act like they are just suddenly aware that this even happened and that it's the worst thing in the whole world.
Sexism does exist in this world, it is pervasive and incredibly destructive. It must be dealt with when a problem. This is not a case of sexism being a problem, though. Now, comments are something else entirely. They fall under the gray area and over the line depending upon what is said. That is something we have complete control over. Looking is instinctive, speaking is not. Quit equating the two, it's not the fucking same!
Now, that said, back to my ignorant sister. My genius sister thinks 'that's so gay' is perfectly acceptable in anything but a joking or ranting matter. Because, she meant "gay in the stupid or ignorant way, not gay way." and "Besides, I didn't think you people wanted to be called that anyways."
You people. Oh, yeah, the reference words of the self-aware genius. You people never ends well, deary.
By using this in a casual conversation she demonstrated the same level of awareness as the women on The Daily Show the other night. The solution is the same in both instances. This is something that is entirely upon the person who takes offense. My sister revealed her ignorance and lack of social graces as surely as anyone who does more than look. It is up to the offended whether they will play the part of a nag/teacher and try to correct the bad behavior, deal with it another way, or ignore it.
I corrected her ignorance, but she's still going to be a deliberately ignorant bitch. There's nothing I can do about it except avoid her or ignore her without becoming a problem myself. I got enough flaws and bitchy behavior of my own without worrying about some ignorant bitch.
TL;DR version. I speak like a sailor about how looking is built-in to the human model, and that you can't compare it to a controlled behavior like speaking because it's not something we learn. The Daily Show tried this the other night and made a bunch of women in cleavage revealing clothing look like ignorant, whiny teases. We do learn what to say, what not to say because that is a learned behavior. While we can't control what other people say, we can control how we react to it. Touching someone without their permission is a big no-no. Think before you speak. I'm a bitch. Looking is not bad, but commenting probably is.
I think that about covers it.
Oh, and calling something 'gay' when it isn't actually about the homosexual lifestyle is still wrong. Gay doesn't mean ignorant, stupid, terrible, awful, dumb, or any other thing you probably think it does. It means two people of the same sex who like to fuck and everything those two people like to do in their regular lives. If two women like to read books, that is not gay. If two lesbians like to read books, that is so gay, because they are lesbians and lesbians are gay, and everything lesbians do is inherently gay. Thus, it is okay to say 'lesbians reading books is so gay'.
Also, PPS, it's okay to put your titties on display. You're not a whore or a slut or a tease or any of those good things. You're normal. Just like it's okay for people to look. They're not perverts, rapists, monsters, or anything you might be thinking. They're normal, like you. Oh, and when you catch yourself looking, that's okay too. You're human. Humans look. Looking at titties doesn't make you a lesbian, feeling them does, though, sorry, even if they're you're own. Especially if they are your own titties. Just kidding about the lesbian part. Everything else is true, though.
Titties!