Relationships....

May 13, 2005 14:54

Ok. Since all of my friends on LJ seem to be doing entries on relationships, I guess I'll "follow the crowd". Alice...you had some really good points. I mean...I understand where you're coming from to a certain degree. It's hard for me to fully understand you though, cuz I'm currently IN a pretty good relationship. I know you've been hurt so many times it's hard for you to trust anymore. And it's hard for you to tell when a person is really being straight with you and REALLY cares about you. But remember what your "adoptive dad" said. There is a guy out there for you. He's JUST for you. He's gonna treat you right, he's gonna actually CARE about your feelings, and he'll be FAITHFUL and TRUE to you. Trust me. He's out there. You've just yet to find him.

Ok. Here's my take on this. Garrett pretty much said that he wasn't really sure there was a point to relationships. I think there is. This is hard to explain...but...Ok. When you first have a bad relationship...you begin to notice things that went wrong. Like when you're sitting there, thinking about why it ended the way it did, or why it ended at all, you start seeing things. Then you realize that had you not overlooked certain things in the relationship, you would've seen certain things coming. But sometimes...like Alice said...the person you're dating seems so...PERFECT in your eyes that you refuse to notice any things that might be going wrong. A cheating girl/boy friend...for instance. You didn't notice the way the first one was acting, but when you enter into another relationship, you become...I don't know...insistent on not falling into that same situation again. So you're SUPER attentive on the actions of your next boyfriend or girlfriend. When you start to see them falling into the same patterns of cheating as the last one you had, that maybe you had overlooked before, you can sometimes protect yourself from falling for that again. You just really start to look at people and the way they act. So you don't get hurt again. Alice I think you might can relate to this. Especially about a certain thing in one relationship.

But really, I don't believe relationships are pointless. They lead you to finding the one. Think about it. You can only fall so many times in walking before you get it right. That could be 50 relationships or 5, but one day, you're gonna find the right way to "walk" without falling down. I think every failed relationship benefits you in one way or another. You learn from your mistakes. And then when your friends make the same ones...yall can laugh about it later. (Alice)

Anyway, the bell's about to ring, so I'll try to finish this later.
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