Jeeze.
I have been reading all of these things about lolitas being so unaccepting and cruel to 'itas' and 'weeaboos' and people who want to mix loli with other things and people tell them that it doesn't work. I have a couple of points to add:
1. People can do whatever they want with fashion but if it isn't in the strict guidlines of lolita, they don't need to call it lolita. They can make it whatever they want.
2. Also, I feel like the lolita community is a lot more accepting on a lot of things that the average person (I've noticed {don't get me wrong, not everyone is like this}) is. For example: Crossdressing, transgenderism, and simple things like people being heavier. There is one girl at my school who is my weight but 7 inches shorter (I'm really fricking tall) and she's pretty nice, but early on people kind of abandoned her so she developed thick skin and when people criticize her (no matter how constructive) she pays no attention. People make fun of her just because she is heavier than the average girl at our school. There are plenty of overweight women who are into lolita and people don't give a care what they weigh! The average middleschool mind could learn a helluva lot from the lolita community. Maybe it's because people aren't very accepting of lolita, so lolitas have more open minds? I don't know. That's my idea.
3. And related to my previous point, maybe since lolitas are so accepting in general, people are freaking out when people start being more harsh about what is "loli" and what isn't.
This is what I think. Maybe people will see this, maybe they won't, but this is what I see.
If you read this, you're crazy. (JK I don't know what that was. : / )