Nov 15, 2004 19:29
something worth re-posting:
“I figured out the key to a relationship and how to make it work: check it out. When you first meet somebody, you find out they like you, first of all, a friend of a friend of theirs says, ‘he or she really really likes you,’ and it kills you, floors you, sends you to the ground, you gotta pick yourself up off the ground. Then you get their phone number and you call them up, and you say, ‘yeah, this is a great phone conversation, can I see you sometime?’ And they say this, they say, ‘I’d like that.’ ‘I’d like that’ makes you fall on the floor again, your heart’s about to stop because of ‘I’d like that.’ Nothing feels better than ‘I’d like that.’ So now, your blood pressure’s going, you’re 6 feet off the ground, you can’t sleep because of ‘I’d like that.’ So then you hang out for a while, and you call, you talk on the phone all the time, and then you drop the bomb, what feels like the bomb, you say, ‘you know what? I’ve been thinking about you a lot’ and they GASP and you go ‘what happened?’ and they go, ‘I’m sorry, I just, I just, I’ve been thinking about you too.’ BAM, higher in the sky. But now, ‘I’d like that,’ done. Now you’re up to ‘I’m thinking about you.’ Then, however number of months pass that makes you feel comfortable saying it, you say, ‘I gotta tell you something,’ they go ‘what,’ you go, ‘I’m in love with you.’ And nothing in the world sounds better than, ‘I’m in love with you.’ And then maybe she starts crying or maybe he gasps, and all of a sudden, you’re like, ‘I’m in.’ But now, what doesn’t work? ‘I’d like that’ and ‘I’ve been thinking about you,’ now we’re at ‘I’m in love with you.’ Then maybe someday we move up to ‘I love you,’ fast forward, now you’re like, ‘I love you a lot,’ ‘I love you more than anything in life,’ now ‘I love you’ doesn’t work, it’s a threshold, it keeps moving up. Fast forward, like, 6 months, 6 weeks, whatever the case may be, now you’re on, like, ‘I wanna marry you,’ ‘I wanna impregnate you with my love,’ ‘I wanna just send my love to you.’ Damnit words don’t work anymore! And then you say this line, and you know you’ve used this line before, ‘I wish they put a word in the dictionary bigger than love because love just doesn’t describe what I feel!’ And so then, now, he or she starts asking, ‘do you love me?’ and you start going, ‘of course I love you!’ ‘well, say it!’ And then it becomes ‘say it twice,’ ‘say it three times,’ and then, you cross a really interesting point, where all of a sudden it becomes, ‘I hate you,’ ‘I hate you.’ And you go, ‘oh my God, they hate me,’ and now it’s like ‘I hate you more than anything!’ and then it’s like, ‘we’re over!’ and then they go ‘no we’re not!’ and you go, ‘yes we are!’ Now the words completely do not work at all, you’re left with nothing, you’re throwing punches underwater, you’re done. You know what the moral of that story is? If there is one? Never, ever, ever, ever, underestimate the power of, ‘I’d like that.’”
-John Mayer