Before all this, imagine me in a coffee shop. The morning light streaming in. I overhear a realtor talking to a colleague about her 'other' maternal grandma, the one she didn't know about; the one who died in the 1960s.

I am off to work. Research.

Waking factors in the following dream:
- Introducing someone to If These Walls Could Talk 2
- Dropping by ( Read more... )

I understand it's a generalization. That's not my point. I want to know *why* one group of lesbians is stereotypical and another isn't. What causes it?

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Having had FFS about three weeks ago, she's healing up well, and when we talked on Skype last night, I saw that the swelling had mostly gone away.

"Do I Look that different" she asked.

Trying not to laugh, I said, "You're going to have a lot of trouble with men."

"It's already started." she said. "Today, I was at a coffee shop, and this guy sat down ( Read more... )

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(What I didn't write was - Xtra West - perhaps you could hire some more people who do not identify as cisgendered homosexuals?)

A lot of homosexuals forget that the word "Queer" was coined in part to unite the wide range of ways of living outside the norm - undoing some of the damage wrought by psychiatry, which defined homosexuality as an ( Read more... )

The Cass identity model of coming out.

It's somewhat outdated, culture-specific, and doesn't apply as much to transgendered people (i.e. both transsexual and gender-variant), but it's good.

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If you are gender normative and first coming out, hiding that you are lesbian, gay or bi may be emotionally grating, but is generally not a logistical challenge ( Read more... )