I'm not saying every relationship is perfect because it's not, every relationship is a bit dysfunctional like you said, but I know if my boyfriend ever talked down to me or hit me, his ass would have been long gone. You just don't do things like that, no matter what the relationship is.
I don't know if I would qualify him slapping her as "hitting" for one reason; if only the characters of Ryoki and Hatsumi were reversed in that situation - there would not have been a problem. I do consider myself to be a feminist, and men and women are supposed to be equal but different. If this situation works in reverse without causing a problem, then it's unfair for the guy. If you look at the situation that Hatsumi's sister put herself in - she was the aggressor in the relationship; yet I have yet to hear that she was abusive towards her boyfriend. (Sorry about the asinine lack of names, but my books are far far from me at the moment.)
If the roles were reversed, I don't think people would be sitting there calling a relationship like that healthy. He didn't just "slap" her, he forced sex, made her feel like shit, hurt her in a LOT of ways (dropping her, pushing her, etcetc), called her names.. was controlling, possessive, etc, etc, etc. If a girl was like that to a guy in a relationship, anyone would tell the guy to get the hell out of there.
Don't you think that girls have their own version? There is girl-restricted whining, bitching, yelling, controlling, sniding, fucking everything in sight but not you, drama, pay this for me because you're a guy, drive me wherever I want because I say so, and give me everything I want but I still won't be happy with you? I can go on. Crappy dates come from both side of the coin
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Yes, he was controlling and possessive but she was almost purposely naive and had a tendency not to come through for a lot of the things she promised. When you get two people like that together there's bound to be fighting, if only to resolve the issues they were having. The story was told through her point of view most of the time, so people tend to identify with her exclusively and excuse her behavior rather then try to understand his. That doesn't change the idea that both of them where acting really crappy towards each other
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I don't think that Ryoki slapped Hatsumi for hanging out with another guy. This really wasn't explained clearly in the books. Ryoki despite of being a total asshole, takes things very personally and he tries to suppress his feelings. The books mentioned that he's "exploited" because of his family's status, him being an only child with parents on a border of a divorce his whole life takes a tall. This in turn caused him to be arrogant and numb to the needs of others. Why? It gets rid of the walking target on his head. It gets rid of the "use me" banner
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I do consider myself to be a feminist, and men and women are supposed to be equal but different. If this situation works in reverse without causing a problem, then it's unfair for the guy. If you look at the situation that Hatsumi's sister put herself in - she was the aggressor in the relationship; yet I have yet to hear that she was abusive towards her boyfriend. (Sorry about the asinine lack of names, but my books are far far from me at the moment.)
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and the character of Hatsumi was abused*, not abusive.
Sorry. Lots of typos in there.
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