Family or Country Culture?
First, I want to apologise for my horrible English. I am very frustrate and I cannot write this better right now. I just have question: Is it a family or country culture custom?
In Korean, we are always welcome friends into the house to eat or just come inside to talk to parents. Or my mom does. They are close and often can just enter and jump on your bed when mom let them in. They are like family. My brother friends always come over and jump on his bed if he is feeling sad and hide under blankets. Even when we move to America.
When I come to America, every family of my friend is say, "they are not home, come back later" or "wait here at the door and I will get them". And when you call it is same. Never has parent want to talk and I can make sure they are okay. Not social.
Or when they come to my home, I offer to feed them and they can come in and relax and wait. Most of the time they say it is "okay". I will come back later, or if my sibling will not come out they room, they say it is "gay" for boy to hug his friend or comfort him.
I donot think it is wrong to comfort a friend if they are sad or feeling sick. I do not think it is a bad thing to hug them or tickle them to make laughs and happiness or cuddle and play video game or cards. It makes me sick to ever hear that. I love my friend and I would be happy to do this for them.
Is this family or culture thing? I am used to my friend can come inside and eat, clean, and move like they are at home. I am uncomfortable when I enter a home because there is so much that is wrong, or something you donot do. I think that my home should be a home from home and if my friend come over, they should think of it like home. They should never be uncomfortable in my home.
Is American custom very different or is it a family? What is it like in other country? Maybe I am just in a area where they all grow up thinking what is right and wrong is this way?
What are your thought? I am curious for what it is like for your family or culture in your country or area you live.