how old are you again?

[holyrood]

OMG i hate apartment-hunting. i hate it so much that instead of doing it today i mopped the floor. i just hate picking a place and dealing with money/budgeting and trying to figure out if i could work around the inconvenience of having to buy a refrigerator and etc

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[panaphobic]

Way to go, baby. People at parties are most likely lame. And boring.

[holyrood]

naw, they were all pretty cool...i realized too late though that being a librarian has CACHET like you cannot imagine.

[dream_labyrinth]

I have the same problem with small talk and the voice in my head.
Yes, people do forget the dumb things we said. They might not even consider them dumb.
But it sure doesn't feel like it.

*hugs*

Yes, you can do it. I did, and I wasn't so sure I could either.
Make yourself a list of things you want in an apartment. Take your cellphone with you and see if you have reception in the area, if that can be an issue around where you live.
If you're sure you can'tlive without DSL, check whether it's available.
Look for windows that close well and lots of electric outlets in all the right places (by the doors, where a fridge should go, next to the sink in the bathroom, near the kitchen counter, near the telephone...).
Take a look at the fuses to see whether they look like they are all from the 20th century or might blow next week.
Those are the things I tried to keep in mind when I was apartment hunting.

[holyrood]

thanks for the good feelings. :) my self-criticism just kicks into overdrive when i feel so lonely; it feels like the stakes are so much higher. i just want to make some casual friends to like to go out with or watch movies with or whatever, and so then every casual encounter with people becomes inflated in my mind because i want some friends so badly. but i am working on pushing that down and getting better at it, sorta. :)

thanks for the apartment tips as well!

[dream_labyrinth]

so then every casual encounter with people becomes inflated in my mind because i want some friends so badly

Yep, I know exactly what you're talking about.
Then when you don't hear from them in a while you start worrying that they don't like you and you'll never have friends and life just sucks.
It takes a lot of hard work to get over those feelings. I haven't found a foolproof way to do it. If you do, let me know! :-)

[holyrood]

i'm so glad to know i am not the only one who feels like this! i so totally agree with everything you wrote. i am slowly slowly trying to be more self-reliant and not care, but it is hard. if i come up with a magic trick to do it i will share!

[speicus]

I'm sure I said many more dumb things than you did.

[holyrood]

but you looked so much more hip! so you still win.

[speicus]

Ha, so I did say dumb things!

[holyrood]

i didn't listen in to most of your conversations...the ones i heard were not dumb. :)

[plummer]

I hate small talk too. And agonize over it before and after parties and such. That's why I much prefer small get togethers with close friends. Unfortunately none of my close friends live near me now :(

Yeah, apartment hunting sucks. That's why I lived in that crappy ghetto apartment in Ypsi for 9 years. My new apartment is awesome though (for that much more money, it should be!).

Good luck.

[holyrood]

*hangs head in shame* before i go out i make a list of "things i can talk about and questions i can ask people to bring about coversation." just so i have something to fall back upon!

i am glad to see i am not alone in hating apartment hunting. i found one place today that was OK, but had some small problems; i am trying to talk myself into searching just a bit more before committing, as i've only looked at 2 places total so far! :)

[angryandy]

i'm currently apartment-hunting as well, and i agree: it sucks ass. especially when you're forced to take a vow of poverty for a university stipend.

i think i also say dumb things at parties a lot, if it makes you feel better. but i think i've finally gotten to the point where i really don't give a shit about what people think of me. my friends know who i am, and acquaintances and co-workers can go fuck themselves.

hope you feel better!

[holyrood]

dude, big yes on the being academic & poor making househunting suck more. i am making over 3x what i made last year and yet it is still not enough. but i make too much $ to get on poor people government-assisted housing! you might want to look into that if you make less than 20K on your stipend.

i am trying to not care about what other people think (made easier now that i am in LA where everyone is so much weirder than i am without even trying) but i even though my heart tells me that, my head still acts all stupid. knowing others have conquered it gives me hope, though, and that makes me feel better. :)