Living to die and dying to live

[hisxgirlfriend]

When you are trying to make an important decision that would have a great impact on your life, the guidelines "do what makes you happy", "you know deep down in your heart what is right" , "do what is best for your future" and "in the end it will all work out" etc

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[anonymous]

If you have two options, and you are honestly indifferent about which one is the better choice, then it doesn't matter what you choose because your choice will be correct. The more time and energy you put into something, the more you make something your life. And the more you make something your life, the more of the "correct choice" it will be. Everything will fall into place.

However, from the sound of things, you already know that one choice is better for you than another. Should you wait longer to make that choice? No. You sound upset with your current situation, and you're ready for a change, one way or the other. If you don't make an active change for the better, then things are just going to get worse. And you can't do that to yourself, and you can't do that to your daughter.

Of course change is scary. But it's even more scary to stay in a situation where you know that you're not happy and you don't see things changing for the better any time soon. You shouldn't hang on to things that hurt you just because you're afraid of letting go. You deserve better than that.

You know that you need to walk away more than anything in the world. Those were your own words. The "need" you talk about is all in your head. It's your own insecurities and the uncertainty of the future. You are a strong person and you shouldn't be afraid to stand up for your own best interests.

Of course it's hard to just stop caring all of a sudden. Humans have evolved to be social creatures, dependant on one another for resources, stability, and emotional bonds that trigger your body to release chemicals that make you feel good. You just have to try to get those things from a group, and not just from one individual. You know feelings change over time, so even if right now it seems like you're going to feel this way forever, it's not true. You will learn to appreciate the good while weighing it against all the bad, and in the long run you will be happy with your choice, whatever that may be.

You say Ailee's the most important thing to you, so let her be your guide. Are you making choices that are going to benefit both of you in the future? Are you making choices that help you to feel good about yourself and provide her with a stable, loving environment?

When you want to fix things but you feel like you can't, you just have to try to relax and keep going. Clear your head. I know the answer is not obvious now, but things have a way of working themselves out. You can't just give up and accept things the way they are. You are NOT stuck. You should NOT feel helpless. You have endless potential and there are a million different ways things could work out. And the best part is, it's all up to you. It's not too late to get what you want in life. You do not have to settle for ANYTHING.