The Great All American Buzzkill
You know what, being straight edge really fucking sucks. I hate it so much. it’s the shittiest double edged sword on the planet. I don’t carry it around like a badge of honor. I don’t go up to random people and tell them I’m straight edge. I don’t see it as an issue of pride. With that, I am not selfish about it, yet it follows me. I figure ( Read more... )
As far as 90% of your personality and character being defined by your choices, I tend to look at it more the other way but it can go both ways. Some would say your personality dictates the choices you make. And I think that deciding to hang with a serial killer is a lot different than someone who drinks or smokes pot haha... people do that, that's just life. If you (not you Kyle, just people in general haha) don't like it, don't hang out with them. But don't complain about feeling unwanted later, because you decided to choose not to be there. But if you're like Chris and can cope with hanging out with them without complaining or holding yourself higher, then I'm all for the mixing. But I just feel like most people are capable of mixing with the "other side", but some just can't see through the nonexistant barrier. I'm not saying you're wrong that our choices help define us or that other people should look at that, but smoking pot doesn't make you a bad person...so therefore why can't you just hang out with people who do it? It's because in your head you think "well they made the other choice, they're wrong" and you distance yourself. And that's why I say that people look too much into the choices. The vast majority of people who have tried drugs or alcohol are not bad people; their choices that you see as bad don't define them as bad. It's just looking too deeply into it.
And I guess that if you're going to be straightedge, you have to expect that you're not going to be invited to every single party where there's drinking/drugs but why would you be going there anyway. If it's a mixed party where there's a lot of both types of people, then yeah you should def. be invited and I would invite you, but if it's like just your group of NON-sxe friends then it becomes like Mike said...it's not even becuase you made a different choice; it's just that your friends don't want to force you into the uncomfortable position that you were trying to avoid. I know that I don't mix my sxe friends with the others when there's drugs, because I wouldn't want to put them in that awkward situation, and most of us would think that if you're really sxe then you wouldn't want to be involved in the first place. Part of making the desision is knowing that your good friends won't be inviting just you over while everyone else does coke; it's almost as uncool as if I invited you and pressured you to do it too. The people who use straightedge as a label to show off that they aren't like the ones they label as druggies and lushes have to be willing to take the consquence that they too are going to be labeled. I'm not saying that they should be, like Chris has been by these friends, but they have to level themselves somewhere. You can't act above and expect to be treated with respect. Just like you can't act the part of a druggie and expect to be respected by straightedgers.
So anyway that's kind of where I stand on it...I probably didn't get that out right so let me know if you want clarification on that confusing/long comment haha. <3Ash
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