dating faux pas
i made my first dating faux pas last night. just yesterday i was thinking that i have to be very careful because when you're dating several men, you don't want to be callous and say something that will hurt their feelings. well, i didn't say anything instead i texted it.
i went on a second date with this guy that i'm unsure about, ie, not sure if i like him. the first date wasn't bad, but he isn't very good-looking. but i thought he deserved a second chance. he arranged the whole night, i found out we were taking a bus (party bus) up to see the roller derby. the bus was picking ppl up at a pizza joint. we arrive early to eat. as we're trying to decide what to get on our pizza, he says to me that he doesn't think pizza is a pizza without meat. and i'm thinking why are you saying this to a vegetarian. he takes it further saying that it's just bread with cheese on it. i'm trying to be nice and accommodating so i say, how bout we split it, he gets one side, i get the other. but he says, no, that's ok. but then after we order he tells me he would have gotten pepperoni. ???
so then we sit in rather uncomfortable silence. i try and get the conversation going but it doesn't go anywhere. we get to the derby and it was awesome! despite the guy. after the derby, the bus takes us to the after party so we go and order drinks. and then the conversation perks up. and i'm thinking great, i have to be drunk to talk to this guy. bad sign.
during the conversation we talk about relationships, he then tells me he's looking for someone to challenge him. i tell him that's unfair to put that on someone, the only person who can challenge him is him. i tell him i'm looking for a friend that will eventually lead to a relationship.
we then get back on the bus to go home, and he tells me that sometimes he offends ppl with what he says. i ask him what does he say. he goes on a tirade. and it wasn't what he was saying it was how he was saying it and his attitude, that's what was offensive. but he is totally blind. he raises his voice even though i'm not arguing with him. and in order for me to get a word in edgewise i have to interrupt him. and of course he feels that he's right and everyone else is wrong.
the next day, i got a voicemail from the younger man. i was surprised to hear that he called. i thought i wouldn't hear from him. i had told my neighbor about this guy so i texted my neighbor, telling him that this guy called. well my neighbor is named chris, and so is the guy i was writing about above. you know how this story ends; second-date guy got the text. i did own up to my blunder. i apologized. the second-date guy didn't seem that pissed off but i haven't heard from him. and not sure i will. but maybe that's a blessing in disguise. plus also i felt that the text blunder was a freudian slip if there ever was one.
i went on a second date with this guy that i'm unsure about, ie, not sure if i like him. the first date wasn't bad, but he isn't very good-looking. but i thought he deserved a second chance. he arranged the whole night, i found out we were taking a bus (party bus) up to see the roller derby. the bus was picking ppl up at a pizza joint. we arrive early to eat. as we're trying to decide what to get on our pizza, he says to me that he doesn't think pizza is a pizza without meat. and i'm thinking why are you saying this to a vegetarian. he takes it further saying that it's just bread with cheese on it. i'm trying to be nice and accommodating so i say, how bout we split it, he gets one side, i get the other. but he says, no, that's ok. but then after we order he tells me he would have gotten pepperoni. ???
so then we sit in rather uncomfortable silence. i try and get the conversation going but it doesn't go anywhere. we get to the derby and it was awesome! despite the guy. after the derby, the bus takes us to the after party so we go and order drinks. and then the conversation perks up. and i'm thinking great, i have to be drunk to talk to this guy. bad sign.
during the conversation we talk about relationships, he then tells me he's looking for someone to challenge him. i tell him that's unfair to put that on someone, the only person who can challenge him is him. i tell him i'm looking for a friend that will eventually lead to a relationship.
we then get back on the bus to go home, and he tells me that sometimes he offends ppl with what he says. i ask him what does he say. he goes on a tirade. and it wasn't what he was saying it was how he was saying it and his attitude, that's what was offensive. but he is totally blind. he raises his voice even though i'm not arguing with him. and in order for me to get a word in edgewise i have to interrupt him. and of course he feels that he's right and everyone else is wrong.
the next day, i got a voicemail from the younger man. i was surprised to hear that he called. i thought i wouldn't hear from him. i had told my neighbor about this guy so i texted my neighbor, telling him that this guy called. well my neighbor is named chris, and so is the guy i was writing about above. you know how this story ends; second-date guy got the text. i did own up to my blunder. i apologized. the second-date guy didn't seem that pissed off but i haven't heard from him. and not sure i will. but maybe that's a blessing in disguise. plus also i felt that the text blunder was a freudian slip if there ever was one.