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It is so frustrating to communicate upset feelings delicately and composed just to have them trivialized and invalidated by a partner.
Even if what the other person is saying doesn't make immediate sense to you, it is part of a committed relationship to attempt to understand where the other person is coming from, even if it doesn't make immediate sense to you. At the very least to acknowledge the feelings exist.
I basically received the equivalent of a pat on the head (like a dog) and a sarcastic,
like I am putting on a song and dance for attention. No.
And for a man who so emphatically expresses not being respected or heard by his bandmates when there is an issue with his music project, and the ensuing frustration of being ignored...that there would be some recognition.
I already feel like I am walking on eggshells in an environment where tension manifests through actions and the absence of actions in a man's world. Internal sighing and waiting for moods to pass, plenty of time for speculation. But here's the kicker: I don't make assumptions or accusations, I ask open-ended questions.
I don't say, "*You're* doing this or being that way."
I will state a fact. (This happened. Are you feeling angry at me or no?) Not, "you're acting like a toddler in a huff, lolwtf."
Effective communication is important to me. I know that unspoken feelings fester into resentment so I try to air them within a reasonable time period of their inception. I don't think that's silly or unreasonable!