I went through this saaaaaaaame garbaggio with my ex-fiance! He cheated on me throughout the duration of our five year relationship, one way or another. There were private online porn sessions (in spite of the fact that I told him that if he did it I wanted to do it as a couple), numerous raunchy, improper conversations with ex-gfs of his, various flirtations and burgeoning relationships with online chicks, a three year affair with a female from his job, and thats not even the tip of the iceberg.
He lied about EVERYTHING under the sun to me. It got to where I was second guessing myself all of the time because I didnt know which way was up anymore.
He didnt like certain guys who were nothing more than FRIENDS, platonic friends to me, so I cut them out of my life.
He didnt like me to have my long, gorgeous, naturally wavy strawberry blond hair, so I cut it short and kept it super short in spite of wanting to grow it out again, for the duration of our relationship.
He didnt like the clothes I wore, so I stopped buying them, and wore what he chose.
There were other things, but you get the idea.
Meanwhile, whenever he had those cellphone and internet contacts with his ex-gfs and the other internet chicks, I would ask him to please stop because it was inappropriate for him to be engaged to me and carrying on like that with other females. He ignored me and continued. Or, he would make a big show of deleting their number from his phone or their name from his messenger list and I would discover later that he had re-added them.
I was unhappy with his relationship with the female at his job for three years, and kept telling him I wanted him to stop but he never did. He always claimed I was wrong, there was nothing going on, they were just friends and I was crazy to think anything more was happening, etc etc...
Just like you, every time he told me he didnt like something I was doing, wearing, or someone I was talking to, I stopped whatever it was. HE refused to do the same for me. I dont know why, and I dont think you can get them to stop. I do know that if they WONT stop, they arent the right one for you. I only got rid of the headaches and huge stress load by leaving my Ass behind completely. I know that if that's what it boils down to for you, you have the inner strength to do it.
I went through this saaaaaaaame garbaggio with my ex-fiance! He cheated on me throughout the duration of our five year relationship, one way or another. There were private online porn sessions (in spite of the fact that I told him that if he did it I wanted to do it as a couple), numerous raunchy, improper conversations with ex-gfs of his, various flirtations and burgeoning relationships with online chicks, a three year affair with a female from his job, and thats not even the tip of the iceberg.
He lied about EVERYTHING under the sun to me. It got to where I was second guessing myself all of the time because I didnt know which way was up anymore.
He didnt like certain guys who were nothing more than FRIENDS, platonic friends to me, so I cut them out of my life.
He didnt like me to have my long, gorgeous, naturally wavy strawberry blond hair, so I cut it short and kept it super short in spite of wanting to grow it out again, for the duration of our relationship.
He didnt like the clothes I wore, so I stopped buying them, and wore what he chose.
There were other things, but you get the idea.
Meanwhile, whenever he had those cellphone and internet contacts with his ex-gfs and the other internet chicks, I would ask him to please stop because it was inappropriate for him to be engaged to me and carrying on like that with other females. He ignored me and continued. Or, he would make a big show of deleting their number from his phone or their name from his messenger list and I would discover later that he had re-added them.
I was unhappy with his relationship with the female at his job for three years, and kept telling him I wanted him to stop but he never did. He always claimed I was wrong, there was nothing going on, they were just friends and I was crazy to think anything more was happening, etc etc...
Just like you, every time he told me he didnt like something I was doing, wearing, or someone I was talking to, I stopped whatever it was. HE refused to do the same for me. I dont know why, and I dont think you can get them to stop. I do know that if they WONT stop, they arent the right one for you. I only got rid of the headaches and huge stress load by leaving my Ass behind completely. I know that if that's what it boils down to for you, you have the inner strength to do it.
*hug*
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