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1. What is you relationship status?
Married, although it's not legally recognized by the Republican theocracy.
2. If you are with someone, how long have you been together?
Almost fifteen years, although we didn't make a formal commitment until 11 years ago.
3. Why did your last relationship end?
I broke up with him after realizing he was a chronic liar.
4. Do you still speak to that person?
No, he's dead now.
5. When it comes to people you date, how old is too old?
Anything beyond a 15 year difference begins to seem a little inter-generational. Which doesn't mean I'd dismiss the possibility, but I'd be more hesitant.
6. How long was your longest relationship?
That would be my current one, so see question #2.
7. Do you think a relationship can survive cheating?
Cheating, no. Cheating implies lying and deceit, which pretty much destroys the relationship whether or not the parties involved care to admit it. On the other hand, I know from personal experience that open relationships can survive and thrive very nicely.
8. Does the idea of an open relationship appeal to you?
See question #7. I've never been in anything other than open relationships. I don't think I could handle a sexually exclusive relationship.
9. Is the person you are dating the best sex you have ever had?
Hard to say. One of the best, for sure. Kelson was very good too, but also very different. I'm certainly not complaining.
10. Do you think you are good in bed?
A "yes" would sound terribly conceited, a "no" unduly modest, so I'm just going to abstain on this one. It's a stupid question.
11. What's more important to you good sex or good conversation?
Good conversation. (I wonder if anyone over the age of 14 ever answers this with "good sex".)
12. Who is "the one that got away"?
I don't really understand this question. It implies that my spouse/partner is somebody who I've somehow captured or imprisoned.
13. Does your friends opinion of your significant other matter to you?
Yes, my friends' opinions always matter to me. That's why I consider them friends.
14. Do you discuss your past relationships / sexual history with your significant other?
Not excessively, no. We don't have any secrets from each other, and after 15 years we both have a pretty good understanding of the other's sexual history, but it's not something we normally talk about.
15. Have you ever been with someone you wished you were in love with?
I don't understand this question either. Why would I wish I were in love with some specific person? I either am or I'm not. I've "been with" a lot of people who I wasn't in love with, but I didn't wish I was in love with any of them.
16. What is something you should work on for your next relationship or to make your current relationship better?
Probably my tendency to say hurtful things in the heat of the moment. I have improved in that department a lot over the years, but I could be better. I still get a bit snippy at times.
17. What are the top three things you need in a relationship?
I want a holistic relationship where we meet spiritually, mentally and physically. So I need my partner to be Pagan (for the spiritual connection), intelligent (for the mental connection) and reasonably attractive to me (for the physical connection, which of course also requires him to be gay or our sex life will be really pathetic).
18. Are you a good boyfriend / girlfriend?
See question #10. I'm just going to say "yes" to this one. He could do worse.
19. What is the wildest thing you have ever done to woo someone?
See my answer to question #12. I don't "woo". I've never tried to capture or lure somebody.
The "one that got away" question bothered me. There's something rather sad about somebody feeling that they have to "catch" a partner. I could never be happy in a relationship if I felt that my partner was entrapped in any way.
Married, although it's not legally recognized by the Republican theocracy.
2. If you are with someone, how long have you been together?
Almost fifteen years, although we didn't make a formal commitment until 11 years ago.
3. Why did your last relationship end?
I broke up with him after realizing he was a chronic liar.
4. Do you still speak to that person?
No, he's dead now.
5. When it comes to people you date, how old is too old?
Anything beyond a 15 year difference begins to seem a little inter-generational. Which doesn't mean I'd dismiss the possibility, but I'd be more hesitant.
6. How long was your longest relationship?
That would be my current one, so see question #2.
7. Do you think a relationship can survive cheating?
Cheating, no. Cheating implies lying and deceit, which pretty much destroys the relationship whether or not the parties involved care to admit it. On the other hand, I know from personal experience that open relationships can survive and thrive very nicely.
8. Does the idea of an open relationship appeal to you?
See question #7. I've never been in anything other than open relationships. I don't think I could handle a sexually exclusive relationship.
9. Is the person you are dating the best sex you have ever had?
Hard to say. One of the best, for sure. Kelson was very good too, but also very different. I'm certainly not complaining.
10. Do you think you are good in bed?
A "yes" would sound terribly conceited, a "no" unduly modest, so I'm just going to abstain on this one. It's a stupid question.
11. What's more important to you good sex or good conversation?
Good conversation. (I wonder if anyone over the age of 14 ever answers this with "good sex".)
12. Who is "the one that got away"?
I don't really understand this question. It implies that my spouse/partner is somebody who I've somehow captured or imprisoned.
13. Does your friends opinion of your significant other matter to you?
Yes, my friends' opinions always matter to me. That's why I consider them friends.
14. Do you discuss your past relationships / sexual history with your significant other?
Not excessively, no. We don't have any secrets from each other, and after 15 years we both have a pretty good understanding of the other's sexual history, but it's not something we normally talk about.
15. Have you ever been with someone you wished you were in love with?
I don't understand this question either. Why would I wish I were in love with some specific person? I either am or I'm not. I've "been with" a lot of people who I wasn't in love with, but I didn't wish I was in love with any of them.
16. What is something you should work on for your next relationship or to make your current relationship better?
Probably my tendency to say hurtful things in the heat of the moment. I have improved in that department a lot over the years, but I could be better. I still get a bit snippy at times.
17. What are the top three things you need in a relationship?
I want a holistic relationship where we meet spiritually, mentally and physically. So I need my partner to be Pagan (for the spiritual connection), intelligent (for the mental connection) and reasonably attractive to me (for the physical connection, which of course also requires him to be gay or our sex life will be really pathetic).
18. Are you a good boyfriend / girlfriend?
See question #10. I'm just going to say "yes" to this one. He could do worse.
19. What is the wildest thing you have ever done to woo someone?
See my answer to question #12. I don't "woo". I've never tried to capture or lure somebody.
The "one that got away" question bothered me. There's something rather sad about somebody feeling that they have to "catch" a partner. I could never be happy in a relationship if I felt that my partner was entrapped in any way.