The one with a trio
I met 2 of my favourite people on 1.1.11, venturing to Vivo for dinner and a movie. Thai Express then Little Fockers followed by a chill out session by the pool at my place. Just like the previous time. It's really therapeutic in a sense that you grab a friend or two, lay on the deck chairs or well the deck, look up at the stars or the clouds that whizz by fast because of the night breeze and you get talking till 2.30 in the morning.
I think it's amazing how the three of us only started to hang out after the Rosyth Concert Band Alumni BBQ in 2008 but it feels like forever. Zhang was my classmate in P6 and probably the only one from then who I meet up with on a fairly regular basis.Qiu was my classmate in P4, where I swear I didn't remember till he told me but he didn't remember me in band so we're quits, and again in SA.
On a side note, I came across this and wow I sure was reading about myself.
Perfectionism
Perfectionists engage in a great deal of irrational thinking but, like most such thoughts, they don't realize they're doing it. Perfectionism is defined by a fear of failure or of making mistakes, a fear of disapproval or letting someone else down, black and white thinking (it's either all or nothing, there are no shades of gray), an emphasis on "shoulds" ("I should be able to do this!"), and a belief that other people's success comes easily to them.
Perfectionistic attitudes set in motion a vicious cycle. First, perfectionists set unreachable goals. Second, they fail to meet these goals because the goals were impossible to begin with. Failure to reach them was thus inevitable. Third, the constant pressure to achieve perfection and the inevitable chronic failure reduce productivity and effectiveness. Fourth, this cycle leads perfectionists to be self-critical and self-blaming which results in lower self-esteem. It may also lead to anxiety and depression. At this point perfectionists may give up completely on their goals and set different goals thinking, "This time if only I try harder I will succeed." Such thinking sets the entire cycle in motion again.