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harmony1440

My achilles heel.

Jan 25, 2012 13:47

Turning 26 years old has not been the most noticeable of transitions, nor have any major life changes occurred. Since my birthday on Friday though, I can honestly say I have been the most depressed and disheartened that I have been in years. I have been absolutely anxiety-ridden and lonely. My husband has been out of touch for several days now and ( Read more... )

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americandreamer January 26 2012, 19:54:56 UTC

I remembered your birthday, I honestly did and I kept reminding myself to write you a note and we even exchanged emails about the ebooks. I'm a horrible friend.

I wish I had some advice for you but when I lived in West Chester, I hated it because I didn't have any friends except I was working all the time so I really only felt it on the weekends.

harmony1440 January 26 2012, 21:25:50 UTC

Aw, I'm sorry. I didn't mean to make you feel bad. I hadn't meant to imply that I was turning my nose up at email and/or online communication. I really appreciate the fact that you wished me a happy birthday and that we were able to talk about books. That helped to get my mind off of things.

I guess what I was trying to get at with this particular vent was that I have no friends, in the physical sense. It's pretty easy to converse with people electronically, but I'm a complete basket case when it comes to face-to-face correspondence. I've become more and more isolated as time goes by, and I do blame some of that on technology. It's given me an excuse to hole myself up at home and now I use that anxiety as sort of a crutch to keep to myself. I need to find someone outgoing, or something that interests me, to interact with that will help me in being more adventurous in the "real" world again.

americandreamer January 26 2012, 21:43:38 UTC

I didn't mean it like like that at all....I get the online/face to face thing. It is part of the reason why I've deactivated my FB for a little because I feel like people are using it too much for communication instead of picking up the phone, etc.

I wish we lived closer it has been so long, hasn't it? I can't imagine having a husband being away like that and then not having communication but I'm glad you have him!

harmony1440 January 26 2012, 21:52:13 UTC

I agree. Facebook is getting a little out of hand. I actually cleared out half of my friends' list the other day, eliminating people that I didn't actually consider friends. I feel like so many relationships have just dried up because the internet often makes things so impersonal or even skewed.

It would be nice if we lived close. We've always had that distance problem, which is disappointing. I feel like we have a lot in common that we could actually do together rather than just talk about! :) That's really important with friendships, I think. My hubby and I have really tried to get involved with each others' hobbies. He's even reading The Hunger Games right now! I'm looking forward to building a love of books with him! The distance does make it hard, but it's something you kind of get used to. It's a necessary sacrifice for happiness, I guess.

americandreamer January 26 2012, 22:15:03 UTC

I did a unfriending spree before I went off but I still had over 400 friends and I honestly think that is just ridiculous.

I'm almost half-way through the 3rd book in that series, but I'm afraid I am going to be disappointed. Have you tried Divergent? I think I told you about that one already.

I was actually thinking - maybe I should make a trip out west, I've never been to Cali.... ;-)

harmony1440 January 26 2012, 22:23:41 UTC

Wow, 400 friends? That's a lot of people! I'm down to around 175 or so. Basically, anyone who didn't a) make me feel good to talk to, or b) offer some kind of benefit was cut off my list. I only want people on there that I feel like I would stop and talk to if I ran into them on the street.

To be honest with you, I was a little disappointed in how the Hunger Games series ended, especially the the epilogue. It was really rushed and not tied up in a neat little bow like I wanted. It was still good though, as a whole series. I have plans to read Divergent eventually. I'm the type of person that when it comes to a series, I'd prefer if the whole thing is written. I have a terrible memory and can't hold onto details when there is too big a break between books.

If you ever come out this way, let me know. We've got a pull out couch. :) We might only be out here for a few more years though, and after that it might be back to PA to take over the family business. Time will tell!

americandreamer January 26 2012, 22:33:50 UTC

Yea, I know that is why I go through every couple of months and purge. To be honest, a lot of people from high school friended me and I don't really see the point because we were never really friends then but I guess I just keep them on there to be a nice. I deleted a lot of people off from college though ( ... )

harmony1440 January 26 2012, 23:02:42 UTC

Most of the people I got rid of on Facebook were from high school. Like you said, I was never really friends with most of them back then and I feel like they only want to be my "friend" now to either be nosy or to have me as another notch on their belt, so to speak. Facebook is like high school in that mentality--it's more about how many "friends" you have and not the quality of the relationships ( ... )

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