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For the past two weeks I have been EXTREMELY stressed out about planning the wedding and not getting along with my dad. I've been an emotional wreck, crying almost every day. On Friday when I got to Lance's I was greeted with a bouquet of my favorite flowers AND he had dinner planned too. Lasagna, garlic bread and a salad. It was so nice to come home to that, to just relax and not have to worry about anything. We watched a movie and went to bed early
I feel really lucky to be marrying someone so supportive of me. He promised to be my "teammate" and to be on my side no matter what and it feels so good to have that! :)
I finally talked to my Dad on Sunday after almost two weeks of not speaking to him and we got things worked out. We have a reasonable budget now and a time frame that will work. I can breathe better now! I've been feeling so much weight to the point where sometimes I feel so overwhelmed I can't breathe. I know a lot of it is just me over thinking things and freaking out when I really shouldn't be but there are a lot of things to think about right now. We went over to Lance's parents on Saturday and I found out that if we buy a house, closing costs will be 4% of the total cost of the house. $8000-$10000. I had no idea it would be even close to that much. I about had a break down on the way home! When we got back to Lance's he sat me down and told me that we couldn't keep going with me being so stressed out all the time and made me talk to him about our wedding budget and what we could do to take some of the stress off of me. We discussed leaving town to get married without our families- it would be so much easier but we think we might regret that. Lance made me be more realistic and put things into perspective. He pointed out that when our parents started out they didn't have NEARLY as much as we have right now, that sometimes it's rough in the beggining and that you have to work hard to get the things you want out of life. Part of the reason I'm going crazy is that I feel like I HAVE worked hard and I've saved my ass off to be able to afford the things I want and it still isn't enough. That is really disappointing to me but I feel a lot better now. He also pointed out the obvious- that the important thing is that we are marrying each other and that means more than having the wedding of my dreams.
Smart guy. Lucky girl.
I feel really lucky to be marrying someone so supportive of me. He promised to be my "teammate" and to be on my side no matter what and it feels so good to have that! :)
I finally talked to my Dad on Sunday after almost two weeks of not speaking to him and we got things worked out. We have a reasonable budget now and a time frame that will work. I can breathe better now! I've been feeling so much weight to the point where sometimes I feel so overwhelmed I can't breathe. I know a lot of it is just me over thinking things and freaking out when I really shouldn't be but there are a lot of things to think about right now. We went over to Lance's parents on Saturday and I found out that if we buy a house, closing costs will be 4% of the total cost of the house. $8000-$10000. I had no idea it would be even close to that much. I about had a break down on the way home! When we got back to Lance's he sat me down and told me that we couldn't keep going with me being so stressed out all the time and made me talk to him about our wedding budget and what we could do to take some of the stress off of me. We discussed leaving town to get married without our families- it would be so much easier but we think we might regret that. Lance made me be more realistic and put things into perspective. He pointed out that when our parents started out they didn't have NEARLY as much as we have right now, that sometimes it's rough in the beggining and that you have to work hard to get the things you want out of life. Part of the reason I'm going crazy is that I feel like I HAVE worked hard and I've saved my ass off to be able to afford the things I want and it still isn't enough. That is really disappointing to me but I feel a lot better now. He also pointed out the obvious- that the important thing is that we are marrying each other and that means more than having the wedding of my dreams.
Smart guy. Lucky girl.