Has it always been like this?

Jan 19, 2008 20:15

 Has engagement always been such a minor deal ( Read more... )

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nikki_wright January 20 2008, 02:14:22 UTC
Most people who get engaged at the age of 16, such as that girl on the VAA, usually don't understand the committment that goes into such an important step in a relationship. Enagement is the promise that you will eventually marry one another and.. both marriage, and engagement, are a lot of work. Sure, they think, "Oh my god, I love you! I swear I'm going to wait for you until 10 years from now!" But.. they don't understand how much that goes into making a marriage, much less a serious relationship, work. In addition to this - People change over the years and to say that you're engaged at such a young age after such a short amount of time [to my knowledge, they've only been seeing each other about 7 months?] is.. irresponsible. Though.. trust me when I say that it's very unlikely that it will work out for them.

It's sorta like.. Kagome and "Thor."

As for the other person. If you're talking about who I think you are -- I don't think they were serious, necessarily; but.. if they were serious, I think it's a pretty bad sign for your relationship if your husband-to-be proposed to you during a forum-game of mafia.

I mean.. they've yet to actually meet - they've only been together about 3 months. And she seems like she'd be a bit more responsible with something like that, so.. I don't know. I didn't take that one seriously [not that I really took the aforementioned couple all that seriously either].

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haku2pure January 20 2008, 02:19:49 UTC
propose through mafia....whut o-o; talk to me please.

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nyaa January 20 2008, 03:28:22 UTC
If by any chance you might just be talking about me since it kind sounds a lot like my situation... (Please to be excusing me if I'm mistaken.)

Uh, yes, I *was* joking. Actually, that comment was made by him before we even got together. Come on, now, you've got to give me a little more credit than that. I'm not that dumb. By no means was I serious about that.

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haku2pure January 20 2008, 05:50:50 UTC
I was actually not talking about you, I was actually talking about a RL person I know. ^^' I just wasn't sure of the scenario.

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nyaa January 20 2008, 06:03:31 UTC
Oh, I know that, my comment was directed at Nikki. :X Not to worry, sir.

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nikki_wright January 20 2008, 08:02:35 UTC
I know you aren't dumb, darling. I didn't mean to come across that way, either -- If that's how I came across, I do apologize. I didn't think you were serious, as I said above, but I did look at the other side of the coin. I had no intention of trying to be malicious and I'm really, really sorry if you took it that way. :(

He wasn't clear in his post, so I was just trying to consider who else he could have meant. Once again, my most sincere apologies if I've hurt your feelings. Not my intention. :(

Edit to say: I've re-read my post and.. yeah, I was way out of line. I'm awfully sorry for writing what I did. I wasn't thinking as I was in a rush [no excuse] and, instead of writing out something a bit more polite and classy, I ended up writing something that made me come off pretty heartless/insensitive [to both parties, really]. Do know that I meant no ill-will towards your relationship with him [in fact, I'm totally rooting for both of you. ♥], and that I defnitely do not think that you're stupid, or make stupid decisions. :/ I hope you can forgive me. :/

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nyaa January 20 2008, 20:19:08 UTC
No hard feelings. :3 Perhaps I shouldn't have reacted the way I did - you did give me the benefit of the doubt. So, I apologize as well.

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