Bit Of Lame.

[h2o_plus]

People Sometimes Hurt You A Lot.As much as I dislike labels, I believe that everyone serves a certain purpose to someone else. Not as in 'everything happens for a reason' - because I don't believe in that or that people just use other people so that they can gain something from them...although that most definitely happens. But that we make friends

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[opheliaheart]

I really hope that you can find happyness and a relationship that can fufill any empty spaces you have. It is important that you can feel respected and happy with whatever you do :)

as for me.. I can't get people to notice me or if they do they think i am too obscure..so i dont have relationship troubles :/

[h2o_plus]

I hope that too, very very much. I just want it to be him that does it, and that is just such a hopeless want.

I like obscure a lot. <33

[opheliaheart]

and you are very pretty! heh.

I'm not very good at the whole meeting people thing. I can make friends easy but relationships are kinda different. Oh well in time i suppose.

[h2o_plus]

We live in the same city. You do understand I'm going to meet you! <33

[saragaia]

You're still young and I wouldn't stress being in any relationship of any kind. But the most important thing in life, what we need as well as want, is happiness

[h2o_plus]

You basically just outlined EXACTLY what I'm feeling and what I want to do.

I like the idea of every moment not being wasted and thinking of them as experiences that contribute to the whole. I just feel so ridiculously...I don't know, like I'm floundering? And although I know that I don't need anyone to lean on etc to survive, it's just, I guess he's been around for so long that it'll be very different (for want of a better word) without having him? That sounds so pathetic. I guess I just have to break out of my uncomfortable comfort zone.

You are absolutely fantastic.

[saragaia]

Comfort zones are all good and dandy, but think about this, "The YOU that you are right now, is it who YOU want to be 5, 10 years down the road?"

I'm always striving to push myself to accept change, to accept the truth and to do something about it. A hard truth I learned about myself is that I care waaaay too much about what total strangers think of me, when in crowds. One on ones is fine, like this, even in person, too. But I need to push myself out and stop caring what they think.

Fantastic? Naw, maybe wise for my age, but I like sharing the wisdomosity.

[h2o_plus]

You should share share share, you have an amazingly great lot to give. Thank youuu!

[saragaia]

Oh, and about the roles that our friends take, I agree. I have one best friend who I've only known for not even a year yet, and I can tell her anything and everything, no matter how great or small a detail.

I have two other best friends, who I've known since high school (so 8 years about), and really, I love them to pieces and with them, anything is possible. I guess it really depends on how well you connect with someone, and how much of yourself that you trust in their care.

It also comes down to how much you trust your own self.

[phoenix_tears07]

It sounds like you've outgrown the relationship. Only seeing each other every day at school is fine for high school puppy love. But now you're older, and you need more than that. Don't feel bad about leaving him, it is clearly time to move on. There is no use in staying in a relationship where your needs are not being met. And chances are, he feels similarly. You should tell him the things you just wrote about. Good luck! ((hugs))

[h2o_plus]

You're right. That passage you just wrote sort of makes me feel more level headed, do you know what I mean? I feel a little less "But I waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaant him!" and a little more objective and collected. I'm just having a tough time working out what my actual needs are? Like what I want from another person in collaboration with what I can give them?

[saragaia]

I think you need to find out WHO you are, and accept yourself; the Great and the Not-So-Great before you can make someone else happy.

[cornix]

I have don't have anything very useful to say, except that relationships are stupidly complicated. I wish they were as simple as on or off, easy as that. Dumb feelings.

Too little time together or even too much time together can be the death of a relationship, that's for sure. I'm finding at the moment my relationship has improved since my boyfriend has a job and I'm studying, because we aren't in each other's faces all day and when we do see each other we're grateful. On the other hand, if I hardly ever saw him it probably wouldn't work either.

It sounds like your relationship has sort of stagnated. If you'd been able to spend more time together out of school and on your own, perhaps things would have been different - it could have improved or it could have been obviously time to end it sooner. I don't know really.

By the way, you are very pretty! And you have a lot of pictures of Draco on your walls.

[h2o_plus]

Yeeeah, I guess we just couldn't get the right balance. And it makes me sad because we really could have had fun together.

DRACO FTW!!