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[eternityis4ever]

Okay, well, this is going to be very difficult for me to write. I am a female freshman in high school. I was fairly sure that I like-liked guys. I had a boyfriend! Granted, it didn't work out, but still. Whenever I would even sometimes think that I might like girls, I would remember that I had a boyfriend. But even when I was with him, I couldn't

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[violin]

I can offer no advice right now. Only comfort. ::hug::

[star_cabaret]

You're young, so just "go with the flow." If it makes you feel better, pick a label you like, but don't assume it's the last one you'll ever use. You may fall somewhere on the bisexual scale, or you could be working out what kinds of feelings you have for guys and gals. Perhaps your taste is different from your friends, or perhaps you're a lesbo. What do we know? We can't necessarily tell from what you've told us.

Being scared is normal, especially considering your family situation. I suggest finding a counselor you can be frank and open with and whom you can trust, but if you're very worried and something potentially very bad is likely to happen, be extremely careful with what you tell to people.

Join or visit a local GSA: if you're straight, you can be an ally; if you're a lesbian or bisexual, you'll fit right in. Either way you can benefit from the experience of the group members.

[tko_ak]

Adolescence is a time for confusion and figuring out who you are. It isn't the end of the world if you are gay or bi. But it's also it's just a phase or it's an isolated incident.

Don't overthink it, or pigeon hole yourself into a category.

[oblyvia]

Being scared is perfectly normal, and it will pass eventually. I'm gathering from your post that you're fairly young, and that means that anything and everything involving sex, relationships and orientation is going to be scary and confusing and vague. I agree with the advice to not over-think things. You will come to a point where you know whether you are attracted exclusively to men or women, or if you are attracted to both, I promise!

I do have advice regarding your feelings towards your female friend, though. Don't act on them (unless you KNOW she is a lesbian or bi). I think a lot of lesbians/bisexual women will confuse their feelings for their female friends early on, undoubtedly because they are of the gender you are attracted to, already close to you and more open to your feelings. BUT, they are not necessarily lesbians or bi themselves, and unless you know that they are, you are only asking for MORE confusion and turmoil by pursuing something that isn't meant to happen.

[a_xolotl]

You're young, so it's kinda hard to say if you're straight, bi, lesbian. Who knows. Your hormones are goin wild, and people your age are changing in all kinds of ways. You could be asexual. You could be transgender. Anything is possible.

What I do recommend, is not withdrawing from yourself if you're not sure. If you have a crush on a girl, allow it to happen, don't feel guilty about it, don't try stifle it. Experimenting with your feelings is the only way you'll discover who you are and what you really like. Try new things...you'll be better off for it.