WARNING: THIS IS A RANT!
I needed to put that disclaimer in the subject line because I need to rant and there are those who will view this jounal entry and may not be happy about being taken on my little Rant Ride.
Personal Responsibility:
I am responsible for how I feel and how I choose to deal with others. YOU cannot make me feel a certain way. I choose to feel that way. If the world is a fucked up place, it's because I choose to view it as a fucked up place. Yes, Virginia, there are people doing fucked up things. But the only way they effect me is IF I CHOOSE TO LET THEM EFFECT ME. For the most part, random people do not choose to fuck with me. They do not put virii out there to specifically fuck with me. They do it to a bunch of people and if I get caught in the affect, it was random. If someone is fucking with me, it's because I've done something, said something, behaved in a manner that caused them to take notice of me and decide that I was worth their effort to fuck with. And if it was a deliberate thing, I would have to seek them out and personally fuck with them. I am not so sparkly that the world, in general, is out to get me. Shit happens, is a phrase that applies here. Shit happens to a lot of people. Taking personal responsibility means determining how you are going to deal with the shit that happens to you and those you love. And if you don't like the shit that's happening, either find a way to change it or change the way you look at it. Better yet, ask yourself, "Is this so bad that it will effect me in 50 years?" If the answer is no, then it's probably not worth getting so upset about or worrying about.
What you "bought into":
Nothing stays the same. Life changes. People change. Values change. Circumstances change. Nothing stays the same. And if you think it does, then you are fooling yourself. For things not to change, they become stagnant. They die. And even in death, things change. Bodies decay and become food for the critters who have other critters who become food for bigger critters who feed your offspring who will die and become food for smaller critters and so on. Death is not a solution. It is an inevitability. It is an eventuality. But what we do on the way to that is part of the choice we make.
Who promised you that you wouldn't have to change in life, that you wouldn't have to compromise? Who said that things wouldn't change? So your life isn't what you expected it to be. CHANGE YOUR LIFE! Find a solution. You don't like where you're living, get a job and get your own damn place. So you didn't "buy into" my life style, all the changes I've made, the things I've acquired; you've had to compromise on things. Guess what?! That's part of the relationships of life. It's part of involving yourself in the lives of others. I've had to compromise too. I didn't buy into 24-7 Potsmoking. I didn't buy into being someone's main financial support. I didn't buy into potentially losing my job and having to get another. I didn't buy into tantrums and cursing every other word and not eating leftovers and poor health because you won't get up off your ass to get a job with health insurance. I didn't buy into being ignored and not feeling special because someone's so involved with their computer that they can't see me anymore. And who said that you could just give up if things weren't what you bought into? I certainly haven't given up. I still hope that you will find it in yourself to see the positive side of life and start living again.
Being a positive example:
To your kids;
To your friends:
To your spouse;
To your business associates;
To your enemies;
To humanity;
If people would just be nicer to each other, be more considerate to each other, I truly believe that the world would be a better place. The old saying goes, "It takes 32 muscles to frown and 24 muscles to smile; So conserve energy and SMILE!" Here's another thought. Energy is a constant. There is positive and negative energy. Think of all the negative energy that is floating around the world. Now if energy is a constant, why couldn't it be positive energy. Why couldn't you spin that energy and make it positive. Think about what would happen if all that amount of energy you spend being dark and moody and down, was put to use in a positive manner. The things you could accomplish... And you know what, it really does work. And I'm not just being a Pollyanna. It may not work immediately. But it you keep it up, things start to look brighter. People start to look at you differently. They start to think of you in a positive light. So the old guy in the store gives you a weird look because you're wearing ripped up jeans. Smile and give him the nod and the "Hey, how's it going?" He'll either smile and talk to you or be so taken aback that he stops staring and turns away. But one of them might say hello. And might talk to you just to pass the time of day.
And what's wrong with just letting people live their lives, as messed up as they may be. Who are you to tell them they are messed up and point out their faults? If it works for them, great. Being a positive example means being part of the solution, not part of the problem. Or coming up with solutions to the problem, even if the problem *is* you.
Ok. I'm running out of steam. The Rant is subsiding.
Personal Responsibility:
I am responsible for how I feel and how I choose to deal with others. YOU cannot make me feel a certain way. I choose to feel that way. If the world is a fucked up place, it's because I choose to view it as a fucked up place. Yes, Virginia, there are people doing fucked up things. But the only way they effect me is IF I CHOOSE TO LET THEM EFFECT ME. For the most part, random people do not choose to fuck with me. They do not put virii out there to specifically fuck with me. They do it to a bunch of people and if I get caught in the affect, it was random. If someone is fucking with me, it's because I've done something, said something, behaved in a manner that caused them to take notice of me and decide that I was worth their effort to fuck with. And if it was a deliberate thing, I would have to seek them out and personally fuck with them. I am not so sparkly that the world, in general, is out to get me. Shit happens, is a phrase that applies here. Shit happens to a lot of people. Taking personal responsibility means determining how you are going to deal with the shit that happens to you and those you love. And if you don't like the shit that's happening, either find a way to change it or change the way you look at it. Better yet, ask yourself, "Is this so bad that it will effect me in 50 years?" If the answer is no, then it's probably not worth getting so upset about or worrying about.
What you "bought into":
Nothing stays the same. Life changes. People change. Values change. Circumstances change. Nothing stays the same. And if you think it does, then you are fooling yourself. For things not to change, they become stagnant. They die. And even in death, things change. Bodies decay and become food for the critters who have other critters who become food for bigger critters who feed your offspring who will die and become food for smaller critters and so on. Death is not a solution. It is an inevitability. It is an eventuality. But what we do on the way to that is part of the choice we make.
Who promised you that you wouldn't have to change in life, that you wouldn't have to compromise? Who said that things wouldn't change? So your life isn't what you expected it to be. CHANGE YOUR LIFE! Find a solution. You don't like where you're living, get a job and get your own damn place. So you didn't "buy into" my life style, all the changes I've made, the things I've acquired; you've had to compromise on things. Guess what?! That's part of the relationships of life. It's part of involving yourself in the lives of others. I've had to compromise too. I didn't buy into 24-7 Potsmoking. I didn't buy into being someone's main financial support. I didn't buy into potentially losing my job and having to get another. I didn't buy into tantrums and cursing every other word and not eating leftovers and poor health because you won't get up off your ass to get a job with health insurance. I didn't buy into being ignored and not feeling special because someone's so involved with their computer that they can't see me anymore. And who said that you could just give up if things weren't what you bought into? I certainly haven't given up. I still hope that you will find it in yourself to see the positive side of life and start living again.
Being a positive example:
To your kids;
To your friends:
To your spouse;
To your business associates;
To your enemies;
To humanity;
If people would just be nicer to each other, be more considerate to each other, I truly believe that the world would be a better place. The old saying goes, "It takes 32 muscles to frown and 24 muscles to smile; So conserve energy and SMILE!" Here's another thought. Energy is a constant. There is positive and negative energy. Think of all the negative energy that is floating around the world. Now if energy is a constant, why couldn't it be positive energy. Why couldn't you spin that energy and make it positive. Think about what would happen if all that amount of energy you spend being dark and moody and down, was put to use in a positive manner. The things you could accomplish... And you know what, it really does work. And I'm not just being a Pollyanna. It may not work immediately. But it you keep it up, things start to look brighter. People start to look at you differently. They start to think of you in a positive light. So the old guy in the store gives you a weird look because you're wearing ripped up jeans. Smile and give him the nod and the "Hey, how's it going?" He'll either smile and talk to you or be so taken aback that he stops staring and turns away. But one of them might say hello. And might talk to you just to pass the time of day.
And what's wrong with just letting people live their lives, as messed up as they may be. Who are you to tell them they are messed up and point out their faults? If it works for them, great. Being a positive example means being part of the solution, not part of the problem. Or coming up with solutions to the problem, even if the problem *is* you.
Ok. I'm running out of steam. The Rant is subsiding.