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[gray_ghost710]

“If there are sound reasons or bases for the points you demand, then there is no need to use violence. On the other hand, when there is no sound reason that concessions should be made to you but mainly your own desire, then reason cannot work and you have to rely on force. Thus, using force is not a sign of strength but rather a sign of weakness.

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[gray_ghost710]

Compassion would be very important in this situation for it gives us the ability to see the true nature of suffering in the world. Compassion allows us to bear witness to that suffering, whether it is in ourselves or others, without fear; it allows us to name injustice without hesitation, and to act strongly, with all the skill at our disposal. To develop this mind state of compassion… is to learn to live, as the Buddha put it, with sympathy for all living beings, without exception. When you bring a one pointed mindset of compassion toward the other person or people that have failed to head your words, then it lets you begin to understand the reason for why they do not care/don't believe/don't understand your reason. Then closely following compassion is patience. Patience is the main antidote to anger. Once one understands that problems and frustration is a basic fact of life, it can reduce our impatience with our own unrealistic expectations. In other words: nothing is perfect, so don't expect it. Because of my belief that things are or can be perfect, it is easy to feel hurt. Equanimity is also key, it means that one realizes the basic equality of all sentient beings; others want happiness, just like I do. Others make mistakes just like I do. Others are confused, angry, attached just like I often am. Is the other person happy in this situation, or just struggling like I am? Think about this when the said situation arises. Then after all ask yourself if this situation is actually important enough to spoil your own and other people's mood. Is this problem worth getting upset in a life where death can hit me at any moment?