Grrr....also known as passive aggressive..or by the end of it, just aggressive
Warning.... this is a rant.
At what point do you confront someone who is not treating you the right way? Yeah, it's easy to end an unhealthy interaction when it is with someone from your personal life but what about when it is with someone that you work with? More over, what if you've already talked to them and they continue to be disrespectful? Should I just shrug it off (again), should I say something about it, or give her the benefit of the doubt that she is too stupid or not self aware enough to realize that she is being offensive (and yes, I realize that might be offensive...but honestly I'm mad). Really, I could use some advice on this. How am I supposed to handle someone who is so rude but does it in a passive aggressive way (like me now, yes). My fall back has always been to talk to the person about the problem, but I've already done that and it hasn't helped. I tried ignoring her rude side remarks and actions... but that just makes me build up until I explode. I already talked to my boss about it (those who know me will realize how extreme the situation is for me to say anything to my boss... I HATE complaining at work) so she is aware that things are tense but I did not give her details since I think that would have been unprofessional. I actually told her that if it kept up I was going to have to find another job because I don't want to work some where that I hate going in to because of one person. I love what I do and I love working for my boss, she's amazing. She spent about half an hour talking me down yesterday and I do have to say that she had some great advice that I do plan on following... I just hope I can find a good outlet for all this bad energy I'm receiving from the coworker.
On top of this, I came home today and literally walked in the door, set groceries down so that I could close the door. I put my purse on the couch, gave the new kitten a pat, and looked up to see Maggie skulking away. She proceeded to walk to the middle of the floor look straight at me and piss. She hasn't done that in years!
Then, when Nate came home, I went to finish up last night's dishes and the pipe under the sink busted exploding rotting ravioli (Nate went to strain the ravioli last night and accidently dumped it all down the drain but we ran the disposal right after that so I don't know how it ended up messing up the pipes) all over the sink cabinet. So we had to throw out all of the stuff we had stored under there because it was disgusting.
So yeah, everything is building up and quite frankly, I'm feeling ready for a fucking fight.... bring it bitches!
At what point do you confront someone who is not treating you the right way? Yeah, it's easy to end an unhealthy interaction when it is with someone from your personal life but what about when it is with someone that you work with? More over, what if you've already talked to them and they continue to be disrespectful? Should I just shrug it off (again), should I say something about it, or give her the benefit of the doubt that she is too stupid or not self aware enough to realize that she is being offensive (and yes, I realize that might be offensive...but honestly I'm mad). Really, I could use some advice on this. How am I supposed to handle someone who is so rude but does it in a passive aggressive way (like me now, yes). My fall back has always been to talk to the person about the problem, but I've already done that and it hasn't helped. I tried ignoring her rude side remarks and actions... but that just makes me build up until I explode. I already talked to my boss about it (those who know me will realize how extreme the situation is for me to say anything to my boss... I HATE complaining at work) so she is aware that things are tense but I did not give her details since I think that would have been unprofessional. I actually told her that if it kept up I was going to have to find another job because I don't want to work some where that I hate going in to because of one person. I love what I do and I love working for my boss, she's amazing. She spent about half an hour talking me down yesterday and I do have to say that she had some great advice that I do plan on following... I just hope I can find a good outlet for all this bad energy I'm receiving from the coworker.
On top of this, I came home today and literally walked in the door, set groceries down so that I could close the door. I put my purse on the couch, gave the new kitten a pat, and looked up to see Maggie skulking away. She proceeded to walk to the middle of the floor look straight at me and piss. She hasn't done that in years!
Then, when Nate came home, I went to finish up last night's dishes and the pipe under the sink busted exploding rotting ravioli (Nate went to strain the ravioli last night and accidently dumped it all down the drain but we ran the disposal right after that so I don't know how it ended up messing up the pipes) all over the sink cabinet. So we had to throw out all of the stuff we had stored under there because it was disgusting.
So yeah, everything is building up and quite frankly, I'm feeling ready for a fucking fight.... bring it bitches!