tell it to your heart
One thing that I come to realize again and again is that I hate the dating world. It's like going to a bunch of job interviews and after you wonder "will he contact me?" or your hoping that he never does. I've only been back in the dating world for a few months and I've gone on a total of four meet-ups. That's right, four, big number huh?
First one was with a guy where I was so-so about, he was cute but I wasn't too sure that our personalities in the end would match HOWEVER at the end we (he stated first) agreed that we'd like to hang out together. We left the Cupcake Station and I got in my car to go back home. Never heard from him again, which bothers me because you don't have to say you want to hang out again...you can just say "it's was nice meeting you..." and leave it at that. So even though I wasn't really interested, it really bothered me that I got dissed.
Second one was meeting up with this guy who lived out in Howell, Gmas happen to be out there for rehab after surgery so I figured I'd kill two birds with one stone. I went and visited Gmas and then went to meet up with guy #2. He brought his seven year old girl with him. Right away I was bothered by this but what do you do? So I had coffee with him, entertained his kid and we even went into the toy store. I would have been interested in him had he not brought the daughter with. He wanted to hang out again, eventually messaged me and I had to tell him that the bringing of his daughter bothered me. He said he knew it was wrong but really wanted to meet me. That made it worse, no communication after that.
Third one was with this guy whom I was pretty sure I wasn't going to be interested romantically but he seemed cool so I decided to meet him. We met for coffee in Birmingham AND he brought me a cupcake from the Cupcake Station. Nice. He had a funny/girlie voice and there was no physical attraction. This guy wanted to hang out again but I didn't so that was the end of that.
About almost a month went by before I went on another meet-up, don't get excited...it was only one. I meet up with the guy last night actually in Royal Oak for coffee at 8pm. For those of you that know me, 8pm is late in Emily's mind because I'm an 80 year old woman. I really didn't even want to go but I sucked it up and went to meet him. When I first walked in I saw a guy (w/coffee) going to sit down in front (I came in the back entrance) and I was almost sure it was him but not quite. That is the part I hate "is that him?" So I got my coffee and decided that I'd walk over, if it wasn't him then I'd just take a seat at the table right by him to wait. It was him and he was cuter in person, he was cute on-line but much cuter in person. Older looking. Very nice guy, funny, witty, and works at a prison. Like how that's a "plus" in my book. At 10pm we (okay I) ended the date and I drove him home since he'd walked up there and it was colder. I think there's potential to hang out but I'm really not sure.
One thing that I thought was really funny was he said this to me when he was talking about his job, "it never gets old...when I call my friends after work to see what they're doing I say 'I'm just leaving prison'..." he's right, that would not get old. So my plan is if I don't hear from him in a day (or two) that I message him asking how prison is and add "you're right it doesn't get old" or something equally lame. Either way, I really hope he wants to hang out again.
There's another guy that wants to go to the Detroit Science Center with me to go look at the Dino exhibit. He's five years younger than I am but why not? That's my cut off on younger, five years max. I won't even make exceptions for 28 almost 29.
First one was with a guy where I was so-so about, he was cute but I wasn't too sure that our personalities in the end would match HOWEVER at the end we (he stated first) agreed that we'd like to hang out together. We left the Cupcake Station and I got in my car to go back home. Never heard from him again, which bothers me because you don't have to say you want to hang out again...you can just say "it's was nice meeting you..." and leave it at that. So even though I wasn't really interested, it really bothered me that I got dissed.
Second one was meeting up with this guy who lived out in Howell, Gmas happen to be out there for rehab after surgery so I figured I'd kill two birds with one stone. I went and visited Gmas and then went to meet up with guy #2. He brought his seven year old girl with him. Right away I was bothered by this but what do you do? So I had coffee with him, entertained his kid and we even went into the toy store. I would have been interested in him had he not brought the daughter with. He wanted to hang out again, eventually messaged me and I had to tell him that the bringing of his daughter bothered me. He said he knew it was wrong but really wanted to meet me. That made it worse, no communication after that.
Third one was with this guy whom I was pretty sure I wasn't going to be interested romantically but he seemed cool so I decided to meet him. We met for coffee in Birmingham AND he brought me a cupcake from the Cupcake Station. Nice. He had a funny/girlie voice and there was no physical attraction. This guy wanted to hang out again but I didn't so that was the end of that.
About almost a month went by before I went on another meet-up, don't get excited...it was only one. I meet up with the guy last night actually in Royal Oak for coffee at 8pm. For those of you that know me, 8pm is late in Emily's mind because I'm an 80 year old woman. I really didn't even want to go but I sucked it up and went to meet him. When I first walked in I saw a guy (w/coffee) going to sit down in front (I came in the back entrance) and I was almost sure it was him but not quite. That is the part I hate "is that him?" So I got my coffee and decided that I'd walk over, if it wasn't him then I'd just take a seat at the table right by him to wait. It was him and he was cuter in person, he was cute on-line but much cuter in person. Older looking. Very nice guy, funny, witty, and works at a prison. Like how that's a "plus" in my book. At 10pm we (okay I) ended the date and I drove him home since he'd walked up there and it was colder. I think there's potential to hang out but I'm really not sure.
One thing that I thought was really funny was he said this to me when he was talking about his job, "it never gets old...when I call my friends after work to see what they're doing I say 'I'm just leaving prison'..." he's right, that would not get old. So my plan is if I don't hear from him in a day (or two) that I message him asking how prison is and add "you're right it doesn't get old" or something equally lame. Either way, I really hope he wants to hang out again.
There's another guy that wants to go to the Detroit Science Center with me to go look at the Dino exhibit. He's five years younger than I am but why not? That's my cut off on younger, five years max. I won't even make exceptions for 28 almost 29.