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We were on break; I discussed E's psychotic neighbor with her until K came in and announced she had boy problems. We turned to listen.
"OK, you guys! I really need your help! So there's this one guy who I *really* like - he's an old family friend - and he just broke up with his girlfriend and now he's calling me! But I don't know if I should move to be with him or stay here with B." (B is her current 'boyfriend' but not really because he's her ex-boyfriend's best friend.)
So we talked and then she explained more about this guy who recently started calling her.
"Six months ago we saw each other again after a long time. We were at a wedding and his girlfriend was gone and, well, stuff happened. Yeah. I was really surprised but oh my GOD he is so gorgeous. I'm not really that kind of girl, you guys! I promise! It was just that one time. We talked over the weeks until his girlfriend came back and then he stopped calling and now they broke up and he's calling again! He's older and might be ready to settle down and stuff. What do I doooooo? I know that somewhere soon I want to settle down and get married, but to who?"
E and I expressed our shock that she had let a guy cheat on his girlfriend with her. She insisted again she "wasn't that kind of person" but I couldn't stop thinking, "um, helLOO, actions speak much much louder than words, my dear!" What was especially disconcerting was the fact that E's engagement has recently been broken off because she discovered her fiance had been cheating on her with another girl. And K so flippantly said, "yeah I knew he had a girlfriend but he was SO GORGEOUS" as if that made it all OK.
Drama. Drama drama drama.
My initial reaction is one of judgment. LOTS of judgment. I am angry at K; I am angry with her immaturity. But my reaction should be one of love and acceptance because Christ came to save sinners, not people who consider themselves perfect. Sinners like K; sinners like me. For Christ's love to show through me I must love, just LOVE. Love is everything. If I only love people who love me, what good is that? How am I different from anyone else in the world?
Jesus' last commandment to his disciples was this, "love others as I have loved you." John 15:12. He said this, KNOWING that one of them would betray him. He called all of them 'friends.' It's as if Jesus was begging them, "Look! If you get nothing else from my presence here with you, get this: I love you. I love you no matter what you do. I'm about to die for you. Everything about me is for, and because of LOVE." So strong is his message that he repeats it again in verse 17.
That's tough but that's life-changing.
"OK, you guys! I really need your help! So there's this one guy who I *really* like - he's an old family friend - and he just broke up with his girlfriend and now he's calling me! But I don't know if I should move to be with him or stay here with B." (B is her current 'boyfriend' but not really because he's her ex-boyfriend's best friend.)
So we talked and then she explained more about this guy who recently started calling her.
"Six months ago we saw each other again after a long time. We were at a wedding and his girlfriend was gone and, well, stuff happened. Yeah. I was really surprised but oh my GOD he is so gorgeous. I'm not really that kind of girl, you guys! I promise! It was just that one time. We talked over the weeks until his girlfriend came back and then he stopped calling and now they broke up and he's calling again! He's older and might be ready to settle down and stuff. What do I doooooo? I know that somewhere soon I want to settle down and get married, but to who?"
E and I expressed our shock that she had let a guy cheat on his girlfriend with her. She insisted again she "wasn't that kind of person" but I couldn't stop thinking, "um, helLOO, actions speak much much louder than words, my dear!" What was especially disconcerting was the fact that E's engagement has recently been broken off because she discovered her fiance had been cheating on her with another girl. And K so flippantly said, "yeah I knew he had a girlfriend but he was SO GORGEOUS" as if that made it all OK.
Drama. Drama drama drama.
My initial reaction is one of judgment. LOTS of judgment. I am angry at K; I am angry with her immaturity. But my reaction should be one of love and acceptance because Christ came to save sinners, not people who consider themselves perfect. Sinners like K; sinners like me. For Christ's love to show through me I must love, just LOVE. Love is everything. If I only love people who love me, what good is that? How am I different from anyone else in the world?
Jesus' last commandment to his disciples was this, "love others as I have loved you." John 15:12. He said this, KNOWING that one of them would betray him. He called all of them 'friends.' It's as if Jesus was begging them, "Look! If you get nothing else from my presence here with you, get this: I love you. I love you no matter what you do. I'm about to die for you. Everything about me is for, and because of LOVE." So strong is his message that he repeats it again in verse 17.
That's tough but that's life-changing.