Finally - The truth is revealed!
Hopefully this will be my final say on this subject - it's haunted my life for so long now and has even affected my physical and mental health through stress, etc.
A girl I have known for 10 years as a very close friend decides after 10 years of me chasing her, she decided to be my girlfriend. This was the worst mistake in my life.
The story starts with her relationship with her alcoholic and violently abusive boyfriend. I had to watch for nearly 4-5 years of her crying after he'd regularly get drunk and beat the daylights out of her, haunt her with abusive or sexually harrising phone calls all hours or the night. I was devastated to see my friend have such a hard time and just wanted to be there and care for her.
After 4 years of abuse, she finally takes everyones advice finally rid herself of this boozing asshole. For a while she enjoyed a single life (Yet unfortunately nearly get herself into serious trouble by sleeping with other members of her cadets, including a younger cadet in her charge)
Months went by, and after over 10 years of trying, she accepts my request to be her boyfriend. Things couldn't seem happier. I thought I could help her through the rough times, support her through University, help her clean the house up and basically improve her quality of life.
I was sadly mistaken.
She lied to me about contraception, and her problems with it (The true facts were told to me by her own mother) - due to this, she fell pregnant and by the "supposed" due date, it would have been from the very first time we'd slept together. ALL questions we're covered about what to do next, even abortion. This was dimissed instantly by her as she had to go through this before, or so she claimed. Her own sister and midwife (from her previous child confirmed this was lies - she was just determined for this child regardless)
I paniced and nearly ran, not the most respectful things I know, but after a long talk, I decided to do the correct thing and stay for her and this child. This is where the problems began.
She was almost counting on me making a run for it as she knew for 12 years I have been dead set against having children (I'd even arranged to have the snip and convinced the clinic that regarless of age and I current had no children that it was the right choice for me!)
Shortly after this, all I got was a cold shoulder, our relationship became stale, she was unresponsive with many things and even intimacy was out the window. I'm not a forceful person and left it as just things settling down while we let the baby news sink in. (Later she claimed that I was abusive and demanded sex all the time, hence the cold shoulder but I have a whole list of partners,ex's and more that would happily testify in a court of law that I'm a gentle person and some may even go as far to say I was forceful in bed as they would have liked - a bit too gentle - si that doesn't figure either)
The next bit was confronting this cold shoulder business, the only reply I got was "I'm still having issues about the (alcoholic) ex"
I have now found out the reason why he was suddenly brought into the situation was the FACT she had been seeing him again without my knowledge, and this was told to me by her own family members who had caught her out in the streets walking with him!
Shortly after this conversation about our relatioship problems, she suddenly txt's me after only leaving her home 10 minutes early to make up a weak excuse that my attitude stinks and I wasn't to come back until I'd change. Well, considering the help and support I'd provided, only to have it thrown back like this, I returned to empty my gear (This was probably to her joy)
The whole story ends with a round up, after telling someone close that she was "Gagging" for another child, her alcoholic ex who had drunk himself into hospital with kidney problems, also has a few manhood problems due to the same drinking habits. Unable to oblige her, she decided to look elsewhere. So, he's out of the door and knowing I've chased her for 10 years, suddenly agree's to a relationship, refuse ANY contraception and falls pregnant within days. The hope that when I find out, I'd run a mile as most would have expected and she could bring back the un-performing ex.
Me staying was a spanner in her works, so out came the cold shoulder trying to push me away until she couldn't hide the fact that she was already seeing her ex again before we'd split up. Along comes the weak excuse to rid me and days later, the alcoholic bully is back! Oh, Happy families!
I realised I myself had overlooked evidence he'd been back in her own bed during our relationship, empty lager cans! When we began dating, I help gut that stinking house, there was dozens of lager cans under her bed. ALL were cleared out and binned! Shortly before I left, we'd had a tidy up and it occured to me, there was atleast another half dozen or so lager cans??? Stanger still is that niether me or her like lager! Which left only one person with a Lager fetish and hide the cans under the bed habit! Yup, the supposed ex.
There we are folks! The truth as supplied by mainly her family memebers and closest friends!
A girl I have known for 10 years as a very close friend decides after 10 years of me chasing her, she decided to be my girlfriend. This was the worst mistake in my life.
The story starts with her relationship with her alcoholic and violently abusive boyfriend. I had to watch for nearly 4-5 years of her crying after he'd regularly get drunk and beat the daylights out of her, haunt her with abusive or sexually harrising phone calls all hours or the night. I was devastated to see my friend have such a hard time and just wanted to be there and care for her.
After 4 years of abuse, she finally takes everyones advice finally rid herself of this boozing asshole. For a while she enjoyed a single life (Yet unfortunately nearly get herself into serious trouble by sleeping with other members of her cadets, including a younger cadet in her charge)
Months went by, and after over 10 years of trying, she accepts my request to be her boyfriend. Things couldn't seem happier. I thought I could help her through the rough times, support her through University, help her clean the house up and basically improve her quality of life.
I was sadly mistaken.
She lied to me about contraception, and her problems with it (The true facts were told to me by her own mother) - due to this, she fell pregnant and by the "supposed" due date, it would have been from the very first time we'd slept together. ALL questions we're covered about what to do next, even abortion. This was dimissed instantly by her as she had to go through this before, or so she claimed. Her own sister and midwife (from her previous child confirmed this was lies - she was just determined for this child regardless)
I paniced and nearly ran, not the most respectful things I know, but after a long talk, I decided to do the correct thing and stay for her and this child. This is where the problems began.
She was almost counting on me making a run for it as she knew for 12 years I have been dead set against having children (I'd even arranged to have the snip and convinced the clinic that regarless of age and I current had no children that it was the right choice for me!)
Shortly after this, all I got was a cold shoulder, our relationship became stale, she was unresponsive with many things and even intimacy was out the window. I'm not a forceful person and left it as just things settling down while we let the baby news sink in. (Later she claimed that I was abusive and demanded sex all the time, hence the cold shoulder but I have a whole list of partners,ex's and more that would happily testify in a court of law that I'm a gentle person and some may even go as far to say I was forceful in bed as they would have liked - a bit too gentle - si that doesn't figure either)
The next bit was confronting this cold shoulder business, the only reply I got was "I'm still having issues about the (alcoholic) ex"
I have now found out the reason why he was suddenly brought into the situation was the FACT she had been seeing him again without my knowledge, and this was told to me by her own family members who had caught her out in the streets walking with him!
Shortly after this conversation about our relatioship problems, she suddenly txt's me after only leaving her home 10 minutes early to make up a weak excuse that my attitude stinks and I wasn't to come back until I'd change. Well, considering the help and support I'd provided, only to have it thrown back like this, I returned to empty my gear (This was probably to her joy)
The whole story ends with a round up, after telling someone close that she was "Gagging" for another child, her alcoholic ex who had drunk himself into hospital with kidney problems, also has a few manhood problems due to the same drinking habits. Unable to oblige her, she decided to look elsewhere. So, he's out of the door and knowing I've chased her for 10 years, suddenly agree's to a relationship, refuse ANY contraception and falls pregnant within days. The hope that when I find out, I'd run a mile as most would have expected and she could bring back the un-performing ex.
Me staying was a spanner in her works, so out came the cold shoulder trying to push me away until she couldn't hide the fact that she was already seeing her ex again before we'd split up. Along comes the weak excuse to rid me and days later, the alcoholic bully is back! Oh, Happy families!
I realised I myself had overlooked evidence he'd been back in her own bed during our relationship, empty lager cans! When we began dating, I help gut that stinking house, there was dozens of lager cans under her bed. ALL were cleared out and binned! Shortly before I left, we'd had a tidy up and it occured to me, there was atleast another half dozen or so lager cans??? Stanger still is that niether me or her like lager! Which left only one person with a Lager fetish and hide the cans under the bed habit! Yup, the supposed ex.
There we are folks! The truth as supplied by mainly her family memebers and closest friends!