Sigh.
I think my mom is really upset with me. And because of that, I'm very hurt. I didn't do anything.
She called me, an irritated tone in her voice, on Friday to ask why I hadn't called her back for weeks. I hadn't even realized she'd called and had been meaning to give her call since I hadn't spoken with her in a few weeks. I don't remember her even leaving a message. Anyway, she made me feel terrible and guilty and I felt awful for upsetting her. We made amends and discussed her upcoming trip to New Orleans to visit me. I assumed she was still coming, as we had been discussing her trip well before I moved.
She seemed excited and I have been telling my friends about it for weeks, because I was excited, too. I mentioned to her that we had decided to move up Aaron's move-in date and start bringing some of his stuff in soon, because running back and forth between apartments was driving us nuts. And expensive with gas mileage. Knowing that this might be a little uncomfortable for her to handle, I told her straight up and honestly that he would be there when she was too. I didn't foresee this as being a problem considering when I told her he was moving in with me, she was very supportive and trusting.
Suddenly she was all, "I don't know, I have to re-think this whole thing. I don't think I'm comfortable with that at all.".... so she would cancel her ENTIRE trip to visit her far-away daughter simply because her boyfriend would be over a lot? A boyfriend she claims to love as one of her own kids? She really hurt my feelings and said she'd have to think about it and call me back. That was Friday.
She only just called me a few moments ago to say she wants me to call her when I get out of work to discuss this. Her tone did not sound good. I will be so hurt if she cancels her trip. I was really looking forward to it, and it hurts that I apparently do not have her support 100%, like I thought I had.
I guess I shouldn't jump to conclusions, but I also don't want to be made feel guilty anymore. Or compromised. I've been working very hard with my therapist on these things and I don't want to get stressed out because my mom doesn't agree with my life choices. I have nothing to apologize for, I'm an adult and I take care of myself completely. I don't want to be made feel like a small child who still needs permission from her mommy.
Anyway, the moral of the story is, I have mommy issues I think, and I was very hurt by her reaction and plan on telling her so.
She called me, an irritated tone in her voice, on Friday to ask why I hadn't called her back for weeks. I hadn't even realized she'd called and had been meaning to give her call since I hadn't spoken with her in a few weeks. I don't remember her even leaving a message. Anyway, she made me feel terrible and guilty and I felt awful for upsetting her. We made amends and discussed her upcoming trip to New Orleans to visit me. I assumed she was still coming, as we had been discussing her trip well before I moved.
She seemed excited and I have been telling my friends about it for weeks, because I was excited, too. I mentioned to her that we had decided to move up Aaron's move-in date and start bringing some of his stuff in soon, because running back and forth between apartments was driving us nuts. And expensive with gas mileage. Knowing that this might be a little uncomfortable for her to handle, I told her straight up and honestly that he would be there when she was too. I didn't foresee this as being a problem considering when I told her he was moving in with me, she was very supportive and trusting.
Suddenly she was all, "I don't know, I have to re-think this whole thing. I don't think I'm comfortable with that at all.".... so she would cancel her ENTIRE trip to visit her far-away daughter simply because her boyfriend would be over a lot? A boyfriend she claims to love as one of her own kids? She really hurt my feelings and said she'd have to think about it and call me back. That was Friday.
She only just called me a few moments ago to say she wants me to call her when I get out of work to discuss this. Her tone did not sound good. I will be so hurt if she cancels her trip. I was really looking forward to it, and it hurts that I apparently do not have her support 100%, like I thought I had.
I guess I shouldn't jump to conclusions, but I also don't want to be made feel guilty anymore. Or compromised. I've been working very hard with my therapist on these things and I don't want to get stressed out because my mom doesn't agree with my life choices. I have nothing to apologize for, I'm an adult and I take care of myself completely. I don't want to be made feel like a small child who still needs permission from her mommy.
Anyway, the moral of the story is, I have mommy issues I think, and I was very hurt by her reaction and plan on telling her so.