love is so silly
Grey's Anatomy was depressing. Whenever Grey breaks up with McDreamy, I get kind of depressed. And George...leaving? Sad. Love depresses me. My mom talking to my dad, answering the phone, making phone calls...WHILE the Grey's Anatomy season finale is on - pisses me off. Then Dad's like 'chill out, it's not that important.' Okay, fine. It's not that important - but I like to feel like I've actually watched the show, so that at the END, I am not going, but wait - what the hell happened? I need to get the tv downstairs hooked up for cable so I don't go insane.
Today was long. Work was long. I'm tired from last night's sail. I had dinner with Adam and Eric up at the Red Mesa in Boyne City. That was nice after a long day at work.
In other news before I go to bed (early, I know - I'm going to get drunk dialed tonight probably, so it's not like I'm *really* going to bed, haha)...I wanted to share this advice that I gave to one of my guy friends. It just kind of, well, made a lot of sense. Maybe a lot of it relates to my own life. Maybe. I'm not sharing that here. Here is some of it (slightly modified from the original):
I'm that girl. I'm that girl that says, 'I just want to be friends' or 'I need my space.' Love is hard. Love is stupid. Love is a pain in the fucking ass and amazing all at the same time. So, let's say she's me for a minute, okay? What I'd really have meant if I said that is probably, 'I can't handle this right now - I can't switch so drastically to feeling like someone actually loves me. I still have my past, whatever that is, and it's hard to get away from that.' She doesn't mean LEAVE. Yes, she might end up screwing around with some other guys, but she wants to be with you. She just doesn't know how to yet...because being with you is REAL and that's scary. Being with the other guys means nothing. And yes, there is a double standard here. You're probably fucked as far as she goes if you start going after other girls. I won't apologize for that standard...that's just the way that it is.
So what do you do? You wait. Waiting is the only thing you can do - because if she's worth it to you, you'll wait. You can't let yourself think right now, 'how long will I have to wait?' because that isn't the important question. You have to think 'what am I waiting FOR? The love of my goddamn life.' You have to know in your heart that it's worth the wait, no matter what the length.
We don't get to choose whom we love. It's one of those things in life that just kind of...happens. Out of the blue. Out of nowhere. We're in love with someone. Even if it isn't practical. Even if it isn't the right time in your life. Even if it isn't the right time in the other person's life. Love happens and it happens on its own schedule.
Love has a balance, too. It's full of compromises. And maybe that sounds kind of cheesy, but sometimes there's truth to old adages (imagine that). It's not enough to just love people they way WE know how to. We have to learn to love them the way THEY know, too.
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Today was long. Work was long. I'm tired from last night's sail. I had dinner with Adam and Eric up at the Red Mesa in Boyne City. That was nice after a long day at work.
In other news before I go to bed (early, I know - I'm going to get drunk dialed tonight probably, so it's not like I'm *really* going to bed, haha)...I wanted to share this advice that I gave to one of my guy friends. It just kind of, well, made a lot of sense. Maybe a lot of it relates to my own life. Maybe. I'm not sharing that here. Here is some of it (slightly modified from the original):
I'm that girl. I'm that girl that says, 'I just want to be friends' or 'I need my space.' Love is hard. Love is stupid. Love is a pain in the fucking ass and amazing all at the same time. So, let's say she's me for a minute, okay? What I'd really have meant if I said that is probably, 'I can't handle this right now - I can't switch so drastically to feeling like someone actually loves me. I still have my past, whatever that is, and it's hard to get away from that.' She doesn't mean LEAVE. Yes, she might end up screwing around with some other guys, but she wants to be with you. She just doesn't know how to yet...because being with you is REAL and that's scary. Being with the other guys means nothing. And yes, there is a double standard here. You're probably fucked as far as she goes if you start going after other girls. I won't apologize for that standard...that's just the way that it is.
So what do you do? You wait. Waiting is the only thing you can do - because if she's worth it to you, you'll wait. You can't let yourself think right now, 'how long will I have to wait?' because that isn't the important question. You have to think 'what am I waiting FOR? The love of my goddamn life.' You have to know in your heart that it's worth the wait, no matter what the length.
We don't get to choose whom we love. It's one of those things in life that just kind of...happens. Out of the blue. Out of nowhere. We're in love with someone. Even if it isn't practical. Even if it isn't the right time in your life. Even if it isn't the right time in the other person's life. Love happens and it happens on its own schedule.
Love has a balance, too. It's full of compromises. And maybe that sounds kind of cheesy, but sometimes there's truth to old adages (imagine that). It's not enough to just love people they way WE know how to. We have to learn to love them the way THEY know, too.
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