I love my life, but how do I keep letting people love theirs?
This one goes out to my buddy, Frozenarrow. :D
I've been going out with this girl Bethany a few times. She is super nice, and very sweet. However, I am in a bit of a predicament. Due to a previous relationship that didn't work out so smoothly, I formed a certain way of approaching relationships. I like to think that I am very honest, but sometimes that is not enough. You have to present honesty in such a way that you convey to people that you truly care for them when the answer is something they do not want to hear.
For example, I like this girl Bethany a lot. Things might grow stronger and she is just really super cool. However, I have felt these feelings before and they wore off after a month of my being in a relationship with my old battle-axe. XD Since then, I have believed the best way to approach relationships is to be open and date many people at once and encourage them to do the same. I invested so much time into my old ex that it was a big thing to break it off and then I had nothing. Just because things didn't work out it led to a bunch of pain for both of us and eventually a destroyed friendship as well as a relationship. We rushed into something and it just didn't work out.
Anyway, my predicament is this: a friend of mine wants me to take out a girl that she knows. I certainly wouldn't mind it. Even if I turn out not to be attracted to this girl, we will still have a good time and enjoy each others company. I would learn more about what kind of woman I would want and she would learn more about what kind of man she wants. Then again, I like Bethany a lot and I wouldn't want to keep this a secret or anything from her. We haven't had the talk where we determined where our relationship is. I think we might eventually get there, but I certainly wouldn't want to go out with anyone until we had that talk. That just wouldn't be fair, I think.
On the other hand, I was thinking I might try to go for a more serious relationship with Bethany. If things didn't work out though, I would want to be her friend. She is kind to me and it is so great when you find someone who treats you respectfully. If she were to go out with someone, I would feel jealous for sure if I took to her, but I think I would feel that much better if she chose me over someone.
Anyone have thoughts on that? I hope this doesn't come off as piggish or anything. I just really think the best way to approach relationships is to have your pick of the litter and then you begin to realize that you spend most of your time with one girl and you realize that you love that one more than the others. :3
But Frozenarrow, I'll tell you how our date went through mail. It was great. :D
Peace, my homies. I must bust my ace at the gym.
-Paul J.
I've been going out with this girl Bethany a few times. She is super nice, and very sweet. However, I am in a bit of a predicament. Due to a previous relationship that didn't work out so smoothly, I formed a certain way of approaching relationships. I like to think that I am very honest, but sometimes that is not enough. You have to present honesty in such a way that you convey to people that you truly care for them when the answer is something they do not want to hear.
For example, I like this girl Bethany a lot. Things might grow stronger and she is just really super cool. However, I have felt these feelings before and they wore off after a month of my being in a relationship with my old battle-axe. XD Since then, I have believed the best way to approach relationships is to be open and date many people at once and encourage them to do the same. I invested so much time into my old ex that it was a big thing to break it off and then I had nothing. Just because things didn't work out it led to a bunch of pain for both of us and eventually a destroyed friendship as well as a relationship. We rushed into something and it just didn't work out.
Anyway, my predicament is this: a friend of mine wants me to take out a girl that she knows. I certainly wouldn't mind it. Even if I turn out not to be attracted to this girl, we will still have a good time and enjoy each others company. I would learn more about what kind of woman I would want and she would learn more about what kind of man she wants. Then again, I like Bethany a lot and I wouldn't want to keep this a secret or anything from her. We haven't had the talk where we determined where our relationship is. I think we might eventually get there, but I certainly wouldn't want to go out with anyone until we had that talk. That just wouldn't be fair, I think.
On the other hand, I was thinking I might try to go for a more serious relationship with Bethany. If things didn't work out though, I would want to be her friend. She is kind to me and it is so great when you find someone who treats you respectfully. If she were to go out with someone, I would feel jealous for sure if I took to her, but I think I would feel that much better if she chose me over someone.
Anyone have thoughts on that? I hope this doesn't come off as piggish or anything. I just really think the best way to approach relationships is to have your pick of the litter and then you begin to realize that you spend most of your time with one girl and you realize that you love that one more than the others. :3
But Frozenarrow, I'll tell you how our date went through mail. It was great. :D
Peace, my homies. I must bust my ace at the gym.
-Paul J.