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[genarti]

I posted this long piece of navel-gazing recently under friendslock. Enough people said it resonated with them that I thought I might as well post an open version too. (So if you read that post, there's absolutely nothing new in this one. I haven't changed a word of it except this intro paragraph.) If you want to quote anything or link to this

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[anonymous]

I'm a friend-of-a-friend-of-a-friend, nobody you know, and should surely not be commenting on this very personal post. But: THANK YOU SO MUCH for "it feels like a self-erasure pretending I'm just being coy", because that is basically my life right now - my awesome marriage is most likely done with sex now that we've made our kids, and I've been really struggling with this urge to identify as asexual, because no one needs to know what we don't do in bed, I'm not on the dating market such that I would want prospective partners to understand that, what possible need do I have to share that with anyone. But thank you for the words "self-erasure", I feel like I have a word now for how it feels to just let everyone assume.

[genarti]

I posted it unlocked pretty much for friends-of-friends-of-friends and the like, so you are entirely welcome to comment