Misogyny Overload

[game_byrd]

Sometimes I have to see something time after time for it to register with me. Today I've seen a bunch of things that I find upsetting.

Comments

[asmodesgold]

Can't you just go to another state to have the abortion

[game_byrd]

Yes, you can go to another state. They're putting hurdles in front of it, making it more expensive, more time consuming, more difficult to navigate and figure out what you can do. For a young woman who probably isn't well-versed in her rights or medical options, a hurdle may well be mistaken for a wall. And I've known quite a few women who had plenty of access to men and were of fertile age, yet did not have easy access to cars or enough money to take a bus trip or whatever to another state (plus there's the difficulty in figuring out where the abortion services are elsewhere, and setting up an appointment when you may well be attempting to conceal this from significant others, employers, friends and relatives, who might judge you harshly for making such a decision).

[asmodesgold]

I didn't think it'd be that difficult to find information on the Internet but then again I'm having a hell of a time trying to find a graduate program. It's like wading through mud.

I can totally understand the cars/money part but I think I could rely on at least one set of grandparents who would help me out without revealing it to my parents or the rest of my family.

[game_byrd]

Not everyone has that luxury. For example, had I ever wanted an abortion and my ex was against it (or it was before I was married), I would have had *no one* to help me, and very little in the way of money. My parents have been very clear they wouldn't back an abortion, although they would take any child I didn't want. I'd still have to carry it, though, and know that the child would be in my life forever.

I had a scare before I married, which was stupid because we'd just jerked each other off, but I was ignorant and thought that maybe sperm could somehow get from point A to point B on its own. I did not see any possible option aside from severely poisoning myself - a topic that I was researching when I finally had my period.

I can't imagine that abstinence-only sex education prepares women any better.

[asmodesgold]

*nods* This makes sense. Also, did you know that sperm can last for a week or more? Scientists aren't sure how long they can survive in the womb.

[game_byrd]

OMG, really?!? No, I didn't. Maybe I wasn't as stupid as I've since thought.

Hey, I've got to wrap up here at work (yeah ... I'm ... um ... supposed to be working, but instead I've been chatting since most everyone is gone) and then get home. This has been great talking with you!

So talk to you later!

[asmodesgold]

Yeah, my mom just left so I can finally take a shower!

See ya!