this is really long, i started ranting sorry_windigo_September 18 2005, 14:06:59 UTC
Your marks WERE exemplary. You weren’t expecting anything less than that granted but they were still exemplary. And if you had got less no one would have cared, they’d have been slightly surprised, but they wouldn’t have minded they just want you to be happy with your results. You are at the top of England in your grades right now, that’s fab it is, but don’t let it get to you. The whole world isn’t watching you hoping that you fall flat on your face. They aren’t even watching you expecting better and better grades, they aren’t watching. I hate to tell you this but if you got a C in German the only person who would be disappointed would be you. Now I realise that dealing with your own disappointment can be hard, but as of yet you have nothing to be disappointed about, don’t start early it’ll be hard enough when that time comes. They TOLD us that A level was difficult. What? Did you think because you happen to be cleverer than most people it still wouldn’t be a big leap? The leap is the same distance. You have just gone from completing an easy set of exams to starting a hard set of exams. Did you honestly think that you weren’t going to go insane for the first few weeks. Give it a month then if you don’t start to get it, if you don’t settle in, THEN start to panic. As it is you’ve had, what is it, 4 lessons. Don’t panic you just have to adjust. Tell your teacher that you’re not understanding. They’ll slow it down. They are going super speed because they think you can cope, if you can’t then tell them and they’ll slow it down in order to get you up to the level you know your capable of. You’re not meant to be at that level yet. When Rosie went to Cambridge the first exam they did was marked incredibly harshly to get everyone to realise they weren’t the most intelligent person in the room. Mr I and Mrs R might well just be trying to get you to actually think about German, they probably thought you were complacent. Which to be fair to them you were last term when you were the top last year, you aren’t this year find a way to deal. Everyone has a point when they can’t work something, they don’t get it, can’t understand. It happens more to some people than to others. So this is your first time, it’ll happen again, but part of being intelligent is being able to say “right I can’t do this I’ll ask for help and try harder”. Do not start to think you’re stupid or that you suck, you don’t you just aren’t the top at the moment, it’ll come back to you. And anyway you are top there’s no one else in the class. You were telling me the other day of when you didn’t win the Year cup in junior school. How the next year you spent the whole time in the library working. If that’s how you cope, then go with that, work harder at german until it’s at the standard of the others. You will get there, but if you don’t then it doesn’t really matter anyway, people just want you happy. I do know what your talking about though, if slightly differently. Science is me, I can do it always have been able to, yet in my GCSEs I only got an A. sounds awful to say I was disappointed but I really was. And I was frustrated because all those people who said they didn’t understand the exam were blatantly lying cause they ended up with a better mark than me. So yer disappointment I get, the kind of disappointment which no one else really understands. But honestly, I know this sounds harsh, and I know you get fragile and upset about this kind of thing but I feel someone has to say it. Deal with it. Suck it up and deal with it. Absolutely everyone you know knows that you are capable of 12A* at GCSE, no one knows what you are capable of at A level. It’s different, it’ll feel different and it’ll probably be harder. Not even you know how you can do at A level so really REALLY don’t worry about it, because everyone expecting things from you are thicker than Robyn and the people who think that you’ll excel continually forever are thicker than that. You have to learn to deal with failure, cause honestly if you don’t you’ll be dead by the age of 35 from a nervous breakdown. I have said all of that out of love, and if it’s any constellation I can’t do the german either :P
Re: this is really long, i started ranting sorryfuyuzareSeptember 19 2005, 12:57:59 UTC
Thanks. I know you understand how I feel, and I agree with what you say. It's just so hard, suddenly, and the fact that it's only hard in one subject makes it more scary, because I can't stop thinking I should have taken maths or French instead, but it's too late for that now.
I just don't want to regret my choices in a year or two years time.
And I love your typo in the last sentence. Classy ^^
You are at the top of England in your grades right now, that’s fab it is, but don’t let it get to you. The whole world isn’t watching you hoping that you fall flat on your face. They aren’t even watching you expecting better and better grades, they aren’t watching. I hate to tell you this but if you got a C in German the only person who would be disappointed would be you. Now I realise that dealing with your own disappointment can be hard, but as of yet you have nothing to be disappointed about, don’t start early it’ll be hard enough when that time comes.
They TOLD us that A level was difficult. What? Did you think because you happen to be cleverer than most people it still wouldn’t be a big leap? The leap is the same distance. You have just gone from completing an easy set of exams to starting a hard set of exams. Did you honestly think that you weren’t going to go insane for the first few weeks. Give it a month then if you don’t start to get it, if you don’t settle in, THEN start to panic. As it is you’ve had, what is it, 4 lessons. Don’t panic you just have to adjust. Tell your teacher that you’re not understanding. They’ll slow it down. They are going super speed because they think you can cope, if you can’t then tell them and they’ll slow it down in order to get you up to the level you know your capable of. You’re not meant to be at that level yet.
When Rosie went to Cambridge the first exam they did was marked incredibly harshly to get everyone to realise they weren’t the most intelligent person in the room. Mr I and Mrs R might well just be trying to get you to actually think about German, they probably thought you were complacent. Which to be fair to them you were last term when you were the top last year, you aren’t this year find a way to deal.
Everyone has a point when they can’t work something, they don’t get it, can’t understand. It happens more to some people than to others. So this is your first time, it’ll happen again, but part of being intelligent is being able to say “right I can’t do this I’ll ask for help and try harder”. Do not start to think you’re stupid or that you suck, you don’t you just aren’t the top at the moment, it’ll come back to you. And anyway you are top there’s no one else in the class.
You were telling me the other day of when you didn’t win the Year cup in junior school. How the next year you spent the whole time in the library working. If that’s how you cope, then go with that, work harder at german until it’s at the standard of the others. You will get there, but if you don’t then it doesn’t really matter anyway, people just want you happy.
I do know what your talking about though, if slightly differently. Science is me, I can do it always have been able to, yet in my GCSEs I only got an A. sounds awful to say I was disappointed but I really was. And I was frustrated because all those people who said they didn’t understand the exam were blatantly lying cause they ended up with a better mark than me. So yer disappointment I get, the kind of disappointment which no one else really understands. But honestly, I know this sounds harsh, and I know you get fragile and upset about this kind of thing but I feel someone has to say it. Deal with it. Suck it up and deal with it. Absolutely everyone you know knows that you are capable of 12A* at GCSE, no one knows what you are capable of at A level. It’s different, it’ll feel different and it’ll probably be harder. Not even you know how you can do at A level so really REALLY don’t worry about it, because everyone expecting things from you are thicker than Robyn and the people who think that you’ll excel continually forever are thicker than that. You have to learn to deal with failure, cause honestly if you don’t you’ll be dead by the age of 35 from a nervous breakdown.
I have said all of that out of love, and if it’s any constellation I can’t do the german either :P
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I just don't want to regret my choices in a year or two years time.
And I love your typo in the last sentence. Classy ^^
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