Well, that went better than expected

[fushigi_na_chou]

~.: Guille and I took our lunch together, and at the urging of my anxiety, I sort of hastened our talk to take place on our lunch break, rather than tonight. It went surprisingly better than expected. I was able to keep my resolve, and presented him with my ultimatums, of which there are three: he has to let me set the pace of the relationship from

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[fushigi_na_chou]

To be honest, probably not. I would probably tell them they need to take a break, at least to straighten out their needs and wants before coming into a relationship with them. If they had also told me they're boyfriend was suspected to have assaulted their roommate, but they were as ambivalent about the situation as I am, all I could tell them was that there was a chance it might not be safe, but that I couldn't make up their mind for them, and they had to be the judge of the circumstances themselves. And then I would hope for the best.

In spite of everything, I believe a relationship with him can work, just not right at the moment with all its bells and whistles. I'm taking quite a few steps back away from it, and limiting the time I spend with him, even and especially alone. He will definitely not be spending the night at my house, and I see it being the same for me staying at his, because we both need space, especially me. I want to approach this from a friendship, and see how things go. I know the warning here is to be extremely careful, because it will be ridiculously easy to fall back into old patterns, but I'm trying to prevent that by making myself busy with everything else, including my other friends, so that I have no choice but to see him on a limited basis.

I'm not ready to try cold-turkey just yet; this is the best I feel I can handle at the moment.