~.: I'm sick of parameters that our culture (and culture in general) places on sexuality and gender. Why is it that if a man has sex with another man he's automatically gay (or bisexual if he has a girlfriend)? Why can't it just be that he enjoys having sex with other men? Same for women- why can't it just be that a woman likes to have sex with
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You see it all the time in the media with celebrities too. As a girl kisses another girl and everyone is appraising her as guy and forgetting about the 20 other guys she's been seen with at some point. It's just not that simple and I think in the end it all comes down to how we feel about ourselves instead of what other people see us as.
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Sorry to cut in but I just have to say that I'm glad I'm not alone in this. Of course, it's the opposite way. I would gladly have sex with a woman. Multiple women, really. But I don't think I could be in a relationship with one. Does that compromise my sexuality? I don't think so.
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I think our society would have it a lot easier if we could just throw all these constraining labels back in the closet.
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Terms like "asexual" and "heterosexual" and "bisexual" and whatever are so misleading. How about we stop identifying people by who they're attracted to and instead focus on what makes them attractive as people.
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Beautifully put.
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But it's like you said, our society/culture/brains? need the labels to easily sort people out. We need to change how we differentiate people inside our heads as well as within our culture. Is that possible though? I'm not asking for an answer, I'm just thinking about it. I mean can we change that? And what would we change first? The labels? It's like the PC labels to prevent racism/racist names. Not "black" but "African-American" - well okay but what if they're NOT from Africa? "Haitian-American?" "Jamaican-American?" Because we think of things as gay or bi or straight due to how we are raised, the environment we're brought up in. So do we change the environment first? But does that change when the people's way of thinking changes? Which came first - society or man? Or something like that.
I wish I could discuss this better with you but my illness is making thinking anything complex impossible. =(
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