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I used to think that shy guys attracted me. They seemed mysterious and I wanted to uncover the mystery. We all know the saying "Still waters run deep."
Yet now, I must admit that proved to be one of those theories I made that stopped being interesting and sounding right when I actually experienced it. Guys can come off rude and uninterested with their coyness. I never intend to pursue someone who isn't friendly or shows how awkward it is for him to talk to me. First impressions, although not always correct, are important and influential.
There is a good-looking guy in my year who my best friend noticed about a year ago. She wanted to get to know him better but he was so shy that he backed off each time someone he didn't know tried talking to him. So she soon gave up the idea altogether. However, a few months after that, we were sitting in a bar and he approached us alone and sat down at our table. It was a huge surprise. We gave each other looks that said "Omg, how come? Him, of all the people!" All sorts of ideas came to our heads and my friend thought that this was a good chance to find out what's behind the introverted-guy mask. Ah, what a disappointment it was. He didn't have a hint of originality in him and kept the conversation going for some 2 minutes. After that he expected us to entertain him. Well, we did make a few attempts, joked around for a while but it was as if he had no individuality. He simply didn't have much to say to anything.
It was things like that happening over time that made me get a better idea of what it is a really want in a guy. Certainly it is someone who can hold up a decent conversation. Nah, cross that. He needs to have personality, heaps of it, and enough confidence to express it. Self-confidence and arrogance are not the same thing. I don't want to be constantly thinking of things I could say or topics we could discuss. I don't want to be on a voyage of getting him to open up to me. I've found that a guy is better at keeping me interested by his words and actions, rather than silence.
I like a guy who can dance. It might sound silly and unimportant but I believe it reflects his personality. He doesn't have to be especially good at it but the fact that he is on that dance floor when most guys dread dancing shows confidence. I like confidence. I like a challenge. Not competition, but an intellectual challenge, someone who after hours of talk still has something to say and feels drawn enough to me to stay and say it.
Yet now, I must admit that proved to be one of those theories I made that stopped being interesting and sounding right when I actually experienced it. Guys can come off rude and uninterested with their coyness. I never intend to pursue someone who isn't friendly or shows how awkward it is for him to talk to me. First impressions, although not always correct, are important and influential.
There is a good-looking guy in my year who my best friend noticed about a year ago. She wanted to get to know him better but he was so shy that he backed off each time someone he didn't know tried talking to him. So she soon gave up the idea altogether. However, a few months after that, we were sitting in a bar and he approached us alone and sat down at our table. It was a huge surprise. We gave each other looks that said "Omg, how come? Him, of all the people!" All sorts of ideas came to our heads and my friend thought that this was a good chance to find out what's behind the introverted-guy mask. Ah, what a disappointment it was. He didn't have a hint of originality in him and kept the conversation going for some 2 minutes. After that he expected us to entertain him. Well, we did make a few attempts, joked around for a while but it was as if he had no individuality. He simply didn't have much to say to anything.
It was things like that happening over time that made me get a better idea of what it is a really want in a guy. Certainly it is someone who can hold up a decent conversation. Nah, cross that. He needs to have personality, heaps of it, and enough confidence to express it. Self-confidence and arrogance are not the same thing. I don't want to be constantly thinking of things I could say or topics we could discuss. I don't want to be on a voyage of getting him to open up to me. I've found that a guy is better at keeping me interested by his words and actions, rather than silence.
I like a guy who can dance. It might sound silly and unimportant but I believe it reflects his personality. He doesn't have to be especially good at it but the fact that he is on that dance floor when most guys dread dancing shows confidence. I like confidence. I like a challenge. Not competition, but an intellectual challenge, someone who after hours of talk still has something to say and feels drawn enough to me to stay and say it.