lol - you probably knew *I'd* have something to say! ;pladynineMarch 3 2009, 19:03:32 UTC
Get your hair done, for sure. You'll feel great about how you look and this will translate into confident body language - sexy! Same with what you wear - I'd opt for what you're more comfortable in - no fussing with anything you're not used to wearing.
This *should* go without saying, but I've noticed so much lately that it doesn't - if you have a cell phone? Leave it OFF. Not on vibrate, not on whatever, just OFF.
What sorts of things do you have in common? I'm thinking of a 'cheat sheet' - just a quick list of things to think about before you see her, so that if there's a silence you feel is uncomfortable (good sign, though, if it IS a comfortable silence!) you have something to pull from the air to start the conversation up again.
And, usually, the rule of thumb is to not be TOO much yourself at first meeting, right? ;p Stick away from revealing stuff that's depressing (family trauma stories, whatever) unless she specifically asks. Just 'cause she may be a good listener doesn't mean she needs to know! Again, this should go without saying, I'm just remembering my last 'first date' with that guy telling me about watching his twin sister drown at age seven...lol.
Think about what you genuinely want to know about her - are you interested in her career? Where she went to school? Whether she was a gymnastics pro in grade school? What would make YOU interested in getting to know her more? Think about your goals in a mate this time around, and where/how she might fit into that. (i.e., you really want to travel - is she too much the homebody?)
Shoot - I gotta go into a meeting - I hope this helps somehow!!
Re: lol - you probably knew *I'd* have something to say! ;pfragilemuseMarch 3 2009, 20:31:16 UTC
Stick away from revealing stuff that's depressing (family trauma stories, whatever) unless she specifically asks. Just 'cause she may be a good listener doesn't mean she needs to know!
this!!!
a couple months ago i went out for coffee with a guy, not a date or anything, just hanging out and getting to know each other since we'd only met once before at a job.. anyway, he started telling me about these deep family issues from his childhood that left me going o_O at the amount of anger he was expressing up as he talked. i didn't mind him telling me because i am a good listener, but it also left me feeling glad that he was off limits as someone i would consider dating.
This *should* go without saying, but I've noticed so much lately that it doesn't - if you have a cell phone? Leave it OFF. Not on vibrate, not on whatever, just OFF.
What sorts of things do you have in common? I'm thinking of a 'cheat sheet' - just a quick list of things to think about before you see her, so that if there's a silence you feel is uncomfortable (good sign, though, if it IS a comfortable silence!) you have something to pull from the air to start the conversation up again.
And, usually, the rule of thumb is to not be TOO much yourself at first meeting, right? ;p Stick away from revealing stuff that's depressing (family trauma stories, whatever) unless she specifically asks. Just 'cause she may be a good listener doesn't mean she needs to know! Again, this should go without saying, I'm just remembering my last 'first date' with that guy telling me about watching his twin sister drown at age seven...lol.
Think about what you genuinely want to know about her - are you interested in her career? Where she went to school? Whether she was a gymnastics pro in grade school? What would make YOU interested in getting to know her more? Think about your goals in a mate this time around, and where/how she might fit into that. (i.e., you really want to travel - is she too much the homebody?)
Shoot - I gotta go into a meeting - I hope this helps somehow!!
*hug* and good luck. :)
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This is great advice.
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this!!!
a couple months ago i went out for coffee with a guy, not a date or anything, just hanging out and getting to know each other since we'd only met once before at a job.. anyway, he started telling me about these deep family issues from his childhood that left me going o_O at the amount of anger he was expressing up as he talked. i didn't mind him telling me because i am a good listener, but it also left me feeling glad that he was off limits as someone i would consider dating.
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