Follow-up on the last entry
It seems that I've finally been able to make things right and bury the past... Last week I tried sending a message to Casey just to smooth things over and level with her. Unfortunately in trying to do so I said things like "what if we never talked after you broke up with me" and I pointed out that things were always civilized and friendly between us when we spoke in person and it was stupid for there to be any hostility or awkwardness between us. She took it the complete opposite way... She wrote back and sounded angry and confused. Before I responded I took a couple days to think about it and give her the right response. When I wrote back I literally picked up the book "how to win friends and influence people" and basically did a checklist. I wrote and re-wrote my message several times to try and be as clear and positive as possible. I made sure to be positive, thank her, compliment her, not say anything to put her on the defensive, approached things from her perspective and her interests and I even made an effort to use her name several times in the message. The result was a complete 180. This time she seemed to understand exactly how I felt and it seemed as though her entire attitude and demeanor softened. Not only did she write back and say that things were really ok between us but she went even further and told me about some things that were going on and said that she hoped to keep in touch. Now do I plan to talk to her a whole lot in the future? No. But the fact that I can makes all the difference in the world. Just knowing that she's willing to be a friend feels so much better. Yesterday at work I realized that I went the entire week without really thinking about her or what went wrong at all. I was only reminded because a girl I work with asked me if Casey had written back, since we had talked about some different things last week.