The Psychology of Drama

[foxymoonheart]

It's interesting sometimes, how when you read something negative about an unnamed someone, you might wonder if it's about you. Surely, when I rant, I try to avoid ever mentioning names, but it makes me wonder if someone is thinking the exact same thing when they read those rants

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[schnee]

I always wonder if something's about me when somebody makes a post (positive or negative) about someone without naming that person, and it does seem that I'm more likely to assume it might be about me if it's a negative post.

I usually try not to let this affect me, though; if I have problems with someone, I either talk to them about it or I keep it to myself, and I like to think that my friends would do the same.

Outside of that... live and let live is a good philosophy. It's difficult sometimes when you hate someone so much that merely seeing them makes you angry (and I mean *really* angry) again, but I've found that usually, ignoring people and cutting them out of your life is the best thing you can do then (and pretty much the only thing, too). *flicks his ears* It's not good to bottle up your anger, but it is possible to release it in other ways that don't escalate anything.

As for why people still hurt each other, talk behind each others' backs and so on... I'm not sure. Ultimately, it probably boils down to a lack of thought (or intelligence) and a failure to realise that it's all a vicious circle and that violence and hatred (if shown openly) will only beget further violence and hatred; people just don't think about these things. (Some people, anyway.)

[foxymoonheart]

I think I agree, that one reason a person may speak negatively of others is because said person speaks before realizing the words that are coming out of their mouth.

I believe also that people often feel a need for some sense of "justice" which, when carried out with an emotional bias, translates into nothing more than a desire for revenge, which of course only begets more anger and can very possibly lead to a downward spiral.

So let's see what we have so far, the reasons people speak ill of others:

• typical bully syndrome
  
• venting frustrations
  
• seeking revenge
  
• attempting to protect friends
  
• speaking without thinking

A pretty good list so far, I'll say. Thanks for your insight, Schnee. ^.^

[schnee]

*smiles and gives you a warm hug* You're very welcome, foxie... *strokes over your ears and nuzzles affectionately*