Dec 30th 2011 in Cork, like

[fluffworld]

Quick question, following discussions with family re the Irish party for the wedding - if we were to have a bash in Cork on Friday, Dec 30th 2011, and it was in pub somewhere in the city, who would be willing to make it?

Chatting with family last night, who were of the opinion that my estimate of 50+ mates coming is unrealistic. Now, I don't think

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[microgirl]

David and I certainly would. Surely you'd make 50 between friends and family? Hell, I'm hoping 100 will come to our wedding!

[fluffworld]

My family are talking about inviting family and neighbours, and then my friends on top of that as they thought I would invite around 20 people not the 50+ I am thinking of. I am trying to persuade them that a sit down meal is a terrible and ungodly expensive plan, and we should just go with a bit of a party with a wee bit of catering. Hence the data gathering.

[delichan]

Party & catering is really the way to go. Stand your ground, you will get ten million! (<-- valid scientific estimate of numbers.)

[microgirl]

Oh God, no, pub and finger food is the way to go. Or at most a fork buffet with some tables scattered round if folks want to sit. Although if your parents want to pay.... ;)

[fluffworld]

They do, which makes it awkward. You see, I want to invite about a hundred people and can't do that if they are paying for a dinner as I just wouldn't feel right about throwing away that much of their cash. If it was my own cash, not an issue.

Of course, I cannot afford to feed 100+ people a full meal so finger fud FTW.

[microgirl]

Hmm, right. It might be worth looking at costs for a fork buffet (chicken curry and 3-bean chili for eg), no 3-course sit-down shenanigans, get a cake for dessert etc as a compromise, and then possibly look at splitting the costs. Buffet are a much cheaper option (says the girl who's been looking at wedding catering recently ;))

[lainey316]

Depending on the venue, it might be possible to compromise - sit down for 40-50 for the parent friends plus maybe a few close friends of yours @6pm, then hardcore beerage for the rest of us @9pm? A friend is doing something similar for her civil ceremony in Clontarf Castle. Though I suppose some people might feel offended if they were not invited to the full whack. I, personally, only want to go to the party part of all such events now!

Now I have to think of a venue that might facilitate such a setup.

[fluffworld]

That was what I thought was happening (with the dinner being mainly family, to appease my folk's wish to do something to include them), but my Mum likes the idea of a bigger do and keeps suggesting options along those lines. (So far I have vetoed a meal at the Greyhound track as it would be nightmareishly expensive for that many people, and a "do" in Ballincollig as none of my mates could there - and, you know, it's Ballincollig.)

I'm gunning to get back to the original plan of a very small meal and then off to the pub around 8pm for fun, and to see all my friends (and a few nibbles in the pub so people don't starve). My plan was that it was over Christmas, a lot of people might be in Cork anyway, so coming to the pub wouldn't put people out financially too badly.

I shall tell them you suggested it. They tend to like suggestions better when they are not from me. :D

[lainey316]

Boardwalk Grill and the Imperial might be potential venues - assuming they are not recessioned into non-existence by December. There are presumably others. I'd be concerned that a full lift and shift to an entirely different venue post-meal is harder to organise and basically harder to sell to your mother!

It's a bit more relaxed as well, as people will have commitments but it's much much easier to move from Pub A to Pub B than to ensure being in restaurant C for dinner at 6/7 (and since it is a Friday some people will have work)

Get Golden Boy to talk to her. Doesn't she listen to everything he says?