I have a question about gender-neutral family references
So, I am all over gender-neutral pronouns, and I want to call people what they want to be called and stuff, but I am wondering if there is a term which is widely preferred among people who identify as non-gender-binary, not for pronouns but for third-party references to them as family members. For example, my children both are male, so I call them my sons when I refer to them to other people, and I would call female children daughters. Or, I have a sister and two brothers. Aunts uncles grandmothers...
Is the general usage if one's child is nonbinary or in some other way genderqueer such that neither son nor daughter is appropriate, to just say "my child"? (Or, my parent, or my sibling, etc, although I feel like my father's sibling is pretty awkward) It feels weird to me, because "my child" makes me thing of like priests? Or of school permission slips (My child has permission to...). But maybe this is only a matter of culture having told me that son and daughter imply this specific family relationship, and child/parent/sibling are more distant.
Anyone got expertise they wanna share?
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Is the general usage if one's child is nonbinary or in some other way genderqueer such that neither son nor daughter is appropriate, to just say "my child"? (Or, my parent, or my sibling, etc, although I feel like my father's sibling is pretty awkward) It feels weird to me, because "my child" makes me thing of like priests? Or of school permission slips (My child has permission to...). But maybe this is only a matter of culture having told me that son and daughter imply this specific family relationship, and child/parent/sibling are more distant.
Anyone got expertise they wanna share?
Also, this entry is public, so if for some reason you have expertise you wanna share, but you want not to do so in a way that identifies you, anon is fine and so is PM and whatnot.
As LJ says it has disabled the facebook crossposts to protected comments, LJ commenting is re-enabled. However, if you'd like to comment on the the Dreamwidth copy of this post, where there are
comments, you can log in there via OpenID and do so.