Ethics & Morals

[flipped]

I was talking to a LJ friend about ethics and morals or my uneasiness for such. She has suggested on occasions that I should post about this, that, and another thing several times since I've met her here including what I said about ethics below. All of the times she's made these suggestions, I've wanted to, but something always seemed far more

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[rosablanca]

You bring up a number of different very interesting "big" subjects here and I'm not sure I can make a cohesive comment to each and every one of them without making it a whole essay -hmm, long-entry material maybe?

I 100% agree with the idea that we are just as miserable as we want to be. And I also agree that there's a possible justification to everything we choose to do -I liked it where you said that if we didn't find a justification for something, we wouldn't do it.

I don't know to what extent someone ceases to be conscious of the path that they have chosen at one point. I find your idea of finding pleasure in one's misery very interesting and very true. But I think there always is a way to get away from it, even if the farther you've gone down that way, the harder it is to turn back. But I think that misery is always more rewarding than happiness. To begin with, it draws a lot of attention to you, and many people just need that like the air that they breathe -lots of attention rather than quality attention. Happiness implies saying to the world that you are strong enough to deal with the miseries in life and not make them your own via crucis, and not to blame anyone for them. Happiness implies assuming a lot of responsibility over your own life and the decisions that you make, and it also implies some degree of independence. Misery, on the other hand, doesn't make you happy (obviously), in the conventional way, but it does make you the star of the show, it also gets you rid of many responsibilities, as there will be people there to make decisions for you or to pity you when you fail at them.

[flipped]

I too think it is never hopeless to get away from it. :)

Misery, although, does have a tendancy to dry up friends, It's a pretty one sided relationship where you are constantly trying to cheer up someone and they are constantly in need of cheering up. It can be very draining for those who are trying to help if it never does help.