Thank you. It DOES help to know someone was helped, EVER...
Depression is not ALWAYS a choice, but I said that upfront in the first post. But there ARE times you can stop that downward trend to rolling down the slope and plunging over the cliff. It's not always easy to make the choice. But if you continue to try, you get better at it.
I mean...if I'm on a diet and I start eating chocolate, one day I have to recognise that eating the chocolate will start a series of events until I feel the self-loathing that I indulged in chocolate and I'm still tipping the scales beyond what I want. It's the same with our thoughts. Thinking on good things, being focused on trying to get somewhere BETTER, keeping as positive as possible ALL HELP. Nothing bad ever happened by thinking about positive things. But most of us can agree that thinking about NEGATIVE things can and will bring us down and make us feel worse.
I'm with you. I feel very sorry for her and I wish I could "talk" to her and have her understand me. That doesn't seem possible, given what was demonstrated last week. I offered to email her and talk privately, but that was part of that string of posts I had to pull down, and I don't have her address. Besides, if she's still in that mindset, I doubt anything I could say would make much difference.
The thing that struck me the most was when she was replying back to every comment, but whenever someone replied back she would tell them NOT to talk to her anymore. I kept thinking it sounded like how a child rages...and then I'd look at her profile and she's 28. I KEPT checking her profile, because I thought I must not be remembering correctly, she CAN'T be a fully-grown adult, can she? She kept repeating she was going away and for everyone to leave her alone--but she stayed and she kept making comments that others replied to, only enraging her further.
She was a wounded six year old in the body of a woman. That's clung to me. It's HAUNTED me. How does one reach that age and become a certified teacher and still throw emotional tantrums like a child?
I dunno...I kept wishing I'd given her a VALID reason to react, because then I could try to make it better. But so long as she reacted to her own internal reality, there was nothing any of us could do.
It is something you get better at. I sucked at it until quite recently. There are still days when I wonder if I shouldn't be on drugs to help me, but then I remember what taking those felt like, and I know I couldn't do it again.
She was acting like a child, or an animal. Very defensive, wounded . . . I understand it, but it's unfortunate. She made it worse on herself. By insisting it was about her, she made it all about her, brought in a lot of negativity, and fulfilled her own prophecy.
Depression is not ALWAYS a choice, but I said that upfront in the first post. But there ARE times you can stop that downward trend to rolling down the slope and plunging over the cliff. It's not always easy to make the choice. But if you continue to try, you get better at it.
I mean...if I'm on a diet and I start eating chocolate, one day I have to recognise that eating the chocolate will start a series of events until I feel the self-loathing that I indulged in chocolate and I'm still tipping the scales beyond what I want. It's the same with our thoughts. Thinking on good things, being focused on trying to get somewhere BETTER, keeping as positive as possible ALL HELP. Nothing bad ever happened by thinking about positive things. But most of us can agree that thinking about NEGATIVE things can and will bring us down and make us feel worse.
I'm with you. I feel very sorry for her and I wish I could "talk" to her and have her understand me. That doesn't seem possible, given what was demonstrated last week. I offered to email her and talk privately, but that was part of that string of posts I had to pull down, and I don't have her address. Besides, if she's still in that mindset, I doubt anything I could say would make much difference.
The thing that struck me the most was when she was replying back to every comment, but whenever someone replied back she would tell them NOT to talk to her anymore. I kept thinking it sounded like how a child rages...and then I'd look at her profile and she's 28. I KEPT checking her profile, because I thought I must not be remembering correctly, she CAN'T be a fully-grown adult, can she? She kept repeating she was going away and for everyone to leave her alone--but she stayed and she kept making comments that others replied to, only enraging her further.
She was a wounded six year old in the body of a woman. That's clung to me. It's HAUNTED me. How does one reach that age and become a certified teacher and still throw emotional tantrums like a child?
I dunno...I kept wishing I'd given her a VALID reason to react, because then I could try to make it better. But so long as she reacted to her own internal reality, there was nothing any of us could do.
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She was acting like a child, or an animal. Very defensive, wounded . . . I understand it, but it's unfortunate. She made it worse on herself. By insisting it was about her, she made it all about her, brought in a lot of negativity, and fulfilled her own prophecy.
Sad.
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