Jett, you've been part of my (in)sanity through most of this! *laughs*
I'm not really trying to get on people with FMS, either. I admitted during that mess with Naomi that I have been diagnosed, myself. But I prefer to remain positive and to take whatever actions I can to do as well as I can for as long as I can.
My only real complaint I guess is that when I think of you, I think "Jett". When I talk about myself, I think "Grey". When I think of her, now...and others like her...I think "FMS". They've so identified with their illness that they cannot conceive of anything else beyond that worldview. It's when you constantly look at what everyone else does through the coloured lenses of your Victimology ("I'm a Rape Victim", "I'm a Cancer Survivor", "I was Abused") then you're no longer talking about people, you're talking about something that happened TO you. It's not YOU.
I have a Dental Floss Dialogue I usually throw at people who have "Pet Adjectives" for everything. I started doing this when I was surrounded by gay men who seemed to say, do, think, eat, dress, and sleep everything "...because I am Gay."
I would start: "I'm into Dental Floss. I feel very strongly about Dental Floss, and I have a policy of not dating anyone who is not a Flosser...." I would then go into a long dialogue where everything, including all my life choices, were based on Dental Floss. MOST people "get it" and start laughing within two to three minutes.
But I'm no more about Dental Floss than I am about being a Victim or a Survivor or Someone Something Happened To. I'm Grey. All these things in my life have added dimensions to me, but they don't DEFINE me.
Thank you for your words, Jett. I was feeling pretty down that so much irrationality could just wipe my brain clean of coherent thought.
Imagine what her reaction would have been had I gone into my "Taking Offence is actually a CHOICE, too--and I can prove it Biblically" speech.
I'm not really trying to get on people with FMS, either. I admitted during that mess with Naomi that I have been diagnosed, myself. But I prefer to remain positive and to take whatever actions I can to do as well as I can for as long as I can.
My only real complaint I guess is that when I think of you, I think "Jett". When I talk about myself, I think "Grey". When I think of her, now...and others like her...I think "FMS". They've so identified with their illness that they cannot conceive of anything else beyond that worldview. It's when you constantly look at what everyone else does through the coloured lenses of your Victimology ("I'm a Rape Victim", "I'm a Cancer Survivor", "I was Abused") then you're no longer talking about people, you're talking about something that happened TO you. It's not YOU.
I have a Dental Floss Dialogue I usually throw at people who have "Pet Adjectives" for everything. I started doing this when I was surrounded by gay men who seemed to say, do, think, eat, dress, and sleep everything "...because I am Gay."
I would start: "I'm into Dental Floss. I feel very strongly about Dental Floss, and I have a policy of not dating anyone who is not a Flosser...." I would then go into a long dialogue where everything, including all my life choices, were based on Dental Floss. MOST people "get it" and start laughing within two to three minutes.
But I'm no more about Dental Floss than I am about being a Victim or a Survivor or Someone Something Happened To. I'm Grey. All these things in my life have added dimensions to me, but they don't DEFINE me.
Thank you for your words, Jett. I was feeling pretty down that so much irrationality could just wipe my brain clean of coherent thought.
Imagine what her reaction would have been had I gone into my "Taking Offence is actually a CHOICE, too--and I can prove it Biblically" speech.
Love you!
Grey :)
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