thinking... thinking... thinking....
My brain is having problems shutting off lately. I hate that!!! Every time summer comes around I have problems sleeping and problems shutting my poor brain off. I just think think think....
Will my friends who are the sweetest on earth and single ever find someone to love them? Ever find a nice guy who had at least a few of the same interests as them, is decent looking, and not psychotic? Do single men like this exist? Have they all been snatched up by this point?
There is nothing more that I want for the friends I love than for them to find someone who respects them, loves them, and helps them be happier. I am tempted to Match-Make with some guys I know from work, or other places, but then what if things don't work out? I have never been a match-maker. I can never really tell who will get a long and who will hate each other. I laugh to think if anyone ever tried to set me up with anyone, they would never in a million years think that hubby slt and I are a match. So different!!! But our commonalities are in the important areas. Enough about me and hubby.
I have been trying lately to build my friendship circle. I got to the point where I realized I had only a handful of friends, and very few close ones at that. Having a small degree of social anxiety does not help in the making of new friends. I became angry at one of my closest friends and began to wonder why we were friends at all. This led to an effort to surround myself with people who treat me as I want to be treated.
So I am rekindling friendships that have faded. Touched base with a friend I was very close to for years, and whom I had grown apart from. It's been great! I have been making an effort to become closer to friends I only saw occasionally in groups settings, and began calling them more often and hanging out with them more. Now I have started trying to make new friends. People I work with.
This is so hard for me. It's all so hard for me!!! I hate that this is hard. Hubby slt makes new friends so easily. It is not something that comes naturally to me. He can just ask anybody anything, or step up and offer his help with something. I am shy. I am nervous that people will think I am being nosy or intrusive. I am just nervous people won't like me. I know that these fears are sometimes irrational, but they exist, and learning to work around them is hard.
Anyway, gonna go think some more....
Jenni
Will my friends who are the sweetest on earth and single ever find someone to love them? Ever find a nice guy who had at least a few of the same interests as them, is decent looking, and not psychotic? Do single men like this exist? Have they all been snatched up by this point?
There is nothing more that I want for the friends I love than for them to find someone who respects them, loves them, and helps them be happier. I am tempted to Match-Make with some guys I know from work, or other places, but then what if things don't work out? I have never been a match-maker. I can never really tell who will get a long and who will hate each other. I laugh to think if anyone ever tried to set me up with anyone, they would never in a million years think that hubby slt and I are a match. So different!!! But our commonalities are in the important areas. Enough about me and hubby.
I have been trying lately to build my friendship circle. I got to the point where I realized I had only a handful of friends, and very few close ones at that. Having a small degree of social anxiety does not help in the making of new friends. I became angry at one of my closest friends and began to wonder why we were friends at all. This led to an effort to surround myself with people who treat me as I want to be treated.
So I am rekindling friendships that have faded. Touched base with a friend I was very close to for years, and whom I had grown apart from. It's been great! I have been making an effort to become closer to friends I only saw occasionally in groups settings, and began calling them more often and hanging out with them more. Now I have started trying to make new friends. People I work with.
This is so hard for me. It's all so hard for me!!! I hate that this is hard. Hubby slt makes new friends so easily. It is not something that comes naturally to me. He can just ask anybody anything, or step up and offer his help with something. I am shy. I am nervous that people will think I am being nosy or intrusive. I am just nervous people won't like me. I know that these fears are sometimes irrational, but they exist, and learning to work around them is hard.
Anyway, gonna go think some more....
Jenni