The sushi date and other things I've been thinking about since

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I have absolutely no gaydar for the type of women that actually interest me - feminine looking with a fabulous sense of style plus the confidence to back it up, bisexual, independent, and undeniably intelligent. From my experience, most of the women who would seem to qualify turn out to be very heterosexual. As for the women looking to experiment

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This is precisely the dilemma I'm talking about... Of course, having been a part of the goth/fetish scene for the past 8 years, I have to admit that I **have** met really fabulous friends through it. The only difference is that the women with whom I've become friends are straight, or are now such good "friends", that it would be weird (for me -and- them) to suddenly try turning it into something else ;-).

But given my tastes in music, attitude, lifestyle, and attire, fetish parties probably *are* a better choice for me to find a FWB than conventional bars/clubs, where I don't tend to hang out, anyway ;-).

Still, I've never gone to a fetish party with the specific intention of meeting new women for sexual encounters. I always go with my friends, and since friends get introduced to other friends, our social network grows in that way. Since its at a fetish club, I suppose it could seem surprising that we *don't* necessarily meet and greet with a view to sex. Most of us just love to dance, and then go off in couples or smaller groups of friends to play.