SOMETHING WE CAN DO FOR RJ
i am at a loss for words. rj is the last person i would have expected to do this. i don't understand it. i don't want to understand it. i know his daughter was important to him...very important. i know he wanted to see her. wanted to spend time with her. worried about her. from everything i've heard avery's mother is not exactly what we would call responsible. i know that dealing with the court was so very frustrating for rj.
i am not crying. i am not crying yet. i have a lump inside of me. i'm trying to think what to do. how to mourn.
so far all i've come up with is mourning is a way of coping. of dealing with grief. and moving beyond it. there are many of us gothamites who knew him. who will miss him.
so even though it's a bit late. even though he's gone...i want to take care of something for him. i want to give him peace. there are a lot of us gothamites without kids.
i want to set up a upromise account for avery.
rj wanted to take care of his daughter. he can't do that now but i want to help do that for him.
all we have to do is hook up our cvs cards, kroger cards, farmer jack cards, and credit cards to an account for her. it'll put money aside so that she can go to college...because i sincerely doubt that her mother will be doing that for her.
as life goes on and years pass a lot of us will go on to have our own kids, and probably shift our "credits" towards setting up a upromise account for children of our own. but right now it won't cost any of us a thing to do this for rj and for avery. i'll be working on getting the account set up as soon as possible. anyone interested in helping please just leave your email attached to my lj and i'll send you an invite from the upromise site to enter your information in.
eventually i will cry. eventually i may even break down and scream for a while. but right now i'm looking at the reason that someone we all care about left us, and i just want to do something about it. it won't bring him back. it won't make him be here again...but maybe wherever he is it will make him smile....and that thought is what i'm holding onto right now.
i am not crying. i am not crying yet. i have a lump inside of me. i'm trying to think what to do. how to mourn.
so far all i've come up with is mourning is a way of coping. of dealing with grief. and moving beyond it. there are many of us gothamites who knew him. who will miss him.
so even though it's a bit late. even though he's gone...i want to take care of something for him. i want to give him peace. there are a lot of us gothamites without kids.
i want to set up a upromise account for avery.
rj wanted to take care of his daughter. he can't do that now but i want to help do that for him.
all we have to do is hook up our cvs cards, kroger cards, farmer jack cards, and credit cards to an account for her. it'll put money aside so that she can go to college...because i sincerely doubt that her mother will be doing that for her.
as life goes on and years pass a lot of us will go on to have our own kids, and probably shift our "credits" towards setting up a upromise account for children of our own. but right now it won't cost any of us a thing to do this for rj and for avery. i'll be working on getting the account set up as soon as possible. anyone interested in helping please just leave your email attached to my lj and i'll send you an invite from the upromise site to enter your information in.
eventually i will cry. eventually i may even break down and scream for a while. but right now i'm looking at the reason that someone we all care about left us, and i just want to do something about it. it won't bring him back. it won't make him be here again...but maybe wherever he is it will make him smile....and that thought is what i'm holding onto right now.