Owl to Justinlaven_derFebruary 14 2007, 22:47:21 UTC
Oh Justin... I don't think she could hate you. It's not her nature. She could be mad at you to her very core, but I highly doubt that as well. Highly mad is what it is, I bet.
And the reason she does not want to look at you is because either... she's afraid of what she may say and/or she's very, very steamed... because you... what did you say, exactly? And what did SHE say? Details, please...
Re: Owl to JustinfinchandbadgerFebruary 15 2007, 02:54:14 UTC
I think it's very much in her nature to hate me. At least for the moment. I doubt it's permanent. Oh, Merlin. I hope it's not permanent.
The only reason I'm continuing this in an owl and not in person is because I can't imagine the repercussions of being seen with another Gryffindor. Taken or not. Damn. I'm sure I shouldn't be telling anyone, but I kind of have to tell someone. The short of it is that I said something I shouldn't have. Something that went sort of like 'not everything is always about you'. I didn't mean it. I felt horrible the second I'd said it. But she's made me mad. And then she got up and said we'd have to continue or conversation some other time, adding that she was 'finding it hard to look at me'. And I think she was crying. And that's the last thing I want, Lavender. I don't want my best friend to hate me. And I don't want to make her cry. I didn't mean it. I promise that I didn't mean it.
Re: Owl to JustinfinchandbadgerFebruary 15 2007, 06:36:54 UTC
Yeah. Crying. And I just sat there. Like a bloody idiot.
Usually I would be offended about the not thinking properly thing, but because of the circumstances, I'm going to have to agree with you. For now, anyways.
You really have been a big help, Lavender. Writing her would definitely be better. It wouldn't be such upfront rejection from her. She'd be able to choose if and when she wanted to read it. Yes. Good idea.
I tried. She wasn't listening. But I guess I'm going to have to make her listen to me. Sometime. Before this become irreparable.
Re: Owl to Justinlaven_derFebruary 15 2007, 06:49:42 UTC
Don't be offended. You're a boy, it's natural! :)
Just make sure you back a letter with areal 'I'm sorry.'
I would go talk to her, but once again... girl rule, sorry... >_<
The only way it will become irreparable is if you let it become so. Just... don't attack her about it. Lay the ground rules... as in, say that you want to talk, and that Susan should just listen if she doesn't want to talk, and to not interupt you. Say you're sorry. THEN you explain, to the best of your ability, and then say you're sorry again. She may say something along the lines of, 'you just don't get it,' in which case you have to ask her to explain it to you, because you have no idea.
Also... you should give her a day or two to cool off. It may work out better that way then having her blow up again.
And the reason she does not want to look at you is because either... she's afraid of what she may say and/or she's very, very steamed... because you... what did you say, exactly? And what did SHE say? Details, please...
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The only reason I'm continuing this in an owl and not in person is because I can't imagine the repercussions of being seen with another Gryffindor. Taken or not. Damn. I'm sure I shouldn't be telling anyone, but I kind of have to tell someone. The short of it is that I said something I shouldn't have. Something that went sort of like 'not everything is always about you'. I didn't mean it. I felt horrible the second I'd said it. But she's made me mad. And then she got up and said we'd have to continue or conversation some other time, adding that she was 'finding it hard to look at me'. And I think she was crying. And that's the last thing I want, Lavender. I don't want my best friend to hate me. And I don't want to make her cry. I didn't mean it. I promise that I didn't mean it.
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Usually I would be offended about the not thinking properly thing, but because of the circumstances, I'm going to have to agree with you. For now, anyways.
You really have been a big help, Lavender. Writing her would definitely be better. It wouldn't be such upfront rejection from her. She'd be able to choose if and when she wanted to read it. Yes. Good idea.
I tried. She wasn't listening. But I guess I'm going to have to make her listen to me. Sometime. Before this become irreparable.
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Just make sure you back a letter with areal 'I'm sorry.'
I would go talk to her, but once again... girl rule, sorry... >_<
The only way it will become irreparable is if you let it become so. Just... don't attack her about it. Lay the ground rules... as in, say that you want to talk, and that Susan should just listen if she doesn't want to talk, and to not interupt you. Say you're sorry. THEN you explain, to the best of your ability, and then say you're sorry again. She may say something along the lines of, 'you just don't get it,' in which case you have to ask her to explain it to you, because you have no idea.
Also... you should give her a day or two to cool off. It may work out better that way then having her blow up again.
I'm glad I'm a help... and anytime, really.
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