V posted again...

[fierceawakening]

...and since I can't answer at her place, I'll answer here:

I've said repeatedly that I have my own problems with the concept "cisgendered" too. It is, as you say, rather sloppy, and it IS difficult to tell where the cutoff is supposed to be. I've said myself before that many people who aren't transgendered don't feel comfortable with their gender

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[belledame222]

and, really: "why am I always?" why am -I- always twisting things? wtf, v. fine, you meant that's what being a woman is about and that's what you feel you failed at. Yeah, I hear it: and uncomfortable in your skin. A lot of women are. For a lot of the reasons you mention. It's still not the same thing as being trans, okay? Trans people talk about this all the time. And yeah, okay, maybe I shouldn't have assumed this about you personally, but fact is, since you seem to be speaking in defense of radical feminism, a -lot- of talk about trans women is pretty devoted to the idea that they're only doing it to be "feminine;" what was that by Mary Sunshine? "Copy cats are better cats?" hell, there's Janice Raymond's entire oeuvre, speaking of "academic."
And yeah, people in your circles are still taking that shit very seriously, "The Transexual Empire," I see it quoted all the time. It was an -attack.- It's like, "The Homosexual Agenda," all right? No, trying to live your damn life while other people including the ones who -should- be allies in some other reality are making like you're, what was it now? "Wolves in Ewe's Clothing?" "Frankenstein's monster?" isn't...

I just ran out of energy.

And apparently, v, somewhere between our last email communique and now I became Teh Bad again, and you know, that's fine. I've been a mean bastard to your friend witchy, and you know, I'm not sorry, because I think she acted atrociously. Ditto Heart. I won't reiterate all the ways right now. And hey, I guess it's fair that you're feeling the way you do about me even though I haven't attacked you personally, because I sure feel the way I do about witchy and Heart even though--well, no, actually witchy especially's given as good as she's got and first sometimes to me personally, but that wasn't what sent me over the edge.

But...yeah. I don't know. I don't feel like we're reading the same Internet, that's one thing. Seriously, though, would it have been any different if I hadn't gotten involved in all this? Because I'm thinking "The Yoko Factor," myself.

[belledame222]

I mean, fine, I'm privileged, I've overstepped, I'll take that; but really, why don't you ask Lisa just how privileged she really is by the standards you've listed? Or Little Light? Or Galling Galla?