My First Halloween in the Bay Area

[femmeboy]

Hah. Livejournal got into the Halloween spirit just as I did. So, I am in love with this site this morning: http://www.costumeideazone.com/index.htm If you're looking for Halloween ideas, they run the gamut from

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[frankiejlh]

Hey! how handy of you to reply here. Since you've put up this invite-of-sorts on a public post, I'm going to take the leap that it might be ok to ask some questions here, because a few of the folks within reading range of A's lj have received invites and would like to come, but aren't clear on a few points (even after your last email).
If you don't want to address 'em here, would you email me if you get a moment? frankie dot hill at gmail? Thanks in advance if so :).

-Is it a sex party per se (atm i'm guessing it is) and, if so, if one is a huge introvert who enjoys sex parties as an observer but probably won't participate, is that ok, creepy to the participants, en/discouraged, or what? Will there be triangulating activities (such as watching lube wrestling! so you've already partly answered this) for shy ppl?

-You already mentioned that the space isn't set up for BDSM requiring swinging room or equipment, but if someone wanted to do something at close range that didn't need equipment (and, yanno, didn't violate the usual rules of play parties such as no blood or unsafe sex or etc.), would that be ok? I wasn't clear whether you were saying that BDSM was discouraged/not-gonna-happen or just disclaiming that you weren't set up as a dungeon but such play was ok within certain parameters (and, if so, what are the parameters?)

-Are you and other partiers going to be really sad if we come in costume (per #6 on the list of suggestions you last emailed)? I get that states of undress in a sex club are an awesome thing, but I and some folks who can read this are not so keen on being publicly nude for various reasons (states of transition, shyness, being wicked psyched to wear a costume, misc. other things). Seeing *others* publicly nude is fine, tho :).

...that's all I can think of at the moment. Take care! and thanks again for the invite.

[anthrocubsf]

EROS is a sex club...not a dungeon.

The Halloween all genders sex party is a sex party.

The design of this party is that there are no creeps. We encourage engagement, but no one has to play if they don't want to. There is lube wrestling as you mentioned and spin the bottle. There is porn upstairs, steam room, sauna and lounge downstairs.

It's a sex party, but yes, if you have some rougher play that doesn't need light or swinging room (this language sound familiar?), then go for it. If I meant no BDSM play, I'd say that. I'm not saying that, but I am saying this club is not a dungeon, we aren't trying to be a dungeon, and this party isn't a dungeon party.

You can come in any attire you want. You will be given a locker. I just know from experience, that if you want to shower or use the steamroom, then running back and forth, dressing and undressing, finding those missing clothing items, etc eats up a lot of time. Dress accordingly. EROS is a place that many trans men feel comfortable in, on a daily basis, it's not a problem to have tshirts on and extra towels. This party does tend to have people wearing more clothes, but I do believe that if you want to dive into a gay sex club experience with folks of a lot of different genders, then getting into the spirit may mean less rather than more...but there will be some folks wearing funky, fresh and fashionable attire...and many wearing a lot less.

Feel free to ask away, here or elsewhere, or just come. Many will be new here and it will be a blast.

[frankiejlh]

Excellent, thanks for the clarification :).